(Closed) Mommy throwing me a shower which means…

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@runsyellowlites: I think when I finally do get pregnant I will plan my own shower. There is no one in my family to do it. My Mother-In-Law is not crafty and is older so she can’t do it my sister lives in another state and my Mom is crazy so we don’t speak. So that leaves me. I will be having a small get together with mostly my DH’s family since my family is well kind of nuts. I don’t think it is in bad form but if you don’t want to do it I would say something to your Mom and maybe she can take over some of the planning.

Post # 4
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@runsyellowlites: at least this way it will be what you want 🙂 However, I wouldn’t want to make the calls about financial contributions or anything like that. That would make me feel uncomfortable.

I know I will be planning a lot of mine. I’m ok with it.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@runsyellowlites:  Sorry you’re stuck doing all the planning.  I would be annoyed if I had to call my Mother-In-Law and ask her how much/what she could contribute to my own baby shower.  BUT, maybe your mom is just as uncomfortable asking your MIL?   With everything else going on right now, I would just let it be (yea, it kinda sucks).  Even if it’s as simple as sending out evites to your friends asking them to come over on xx date and time for a shower/pot luck…at least you’ll get what the point of the shower is–which is family and friends coming together to congratulate and celebrate you.  There may/may not be games/diaper cake, etc, but at least you’ll have a get together?  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

omgooooosh I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am not pregnant yet but I had this issue with my bridal shower and will have it again with my baby shower…..I will do all the planning, decorating and delegating. I have almways been the planner/organizer/DOER of my sister & mom. They have good intentions but they just…aren’t good. Even when my mom has a dinner party…I show up an hour earlier and RE-PLAN everything that my mom had planned because she is just…not organized. It’s all good though….as long as your mom “feels” like shes doing something…because she is probably really excited about “planning” your shower.

My advice is to honestly just do what you think needs to be done if you can;t trust that she’ll do it. It sucks because i’m sure your so busy, tired and stressed as it is….but, chances are if you don’t do it–it wont get done right. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I’d be so embarrassed planning my own. I hope your mom steps it up…

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