Post # 1
I get to book the venue, get in touch with my sis & Mother-In-Law for what they’ll be contributing, and pretty much all other planning. sigh… LOL
Now I certainly don’t mind helping, especially since I am the crafty one in the bunch. I kinda expected to be over what the “look” would be and such, but I’m starting to feel like I’m planning my own shower. =/
That I don’t like…. when she asked me earlier to call my Mother-In-Law about what she was contributing I quickly knocked it back to her for her to txt the Mother-In-Law… They already talked yesterday about getting planning started so why exactly am I getting everything together? *confused*
Isn’t it bad form to plan your own shower? Not really sure how to convey to my mom that she has all the numbers of everyone involved & what I want so maybe she could just take it over and I kinda just “show up” with the decor & enjoy the day. *shrugs shoulders*
Post # 3
@runsyellowlites: I think when I finally do get pregnant I will plan my own shower. There is no one in my family to do it. My Mother-In-Law is not crafty and is older so she can’t do it my sister lives in another state and my Mom is crazy so we don’t speak. So that leaves me. I will be having a small get together with mostly my DH’s family since my family is well kind of nuts. I don’t think it is in bad form but if you don’t want to do it I would say something to your Mom and maybe she can take over some of the planning.
Post # 4
@runsyellowlites: at least this way it will be what you want 🙂 However, I wouldn’t want to make the calls about financial contributions or anything like that. That would make me feel uncomfortable.
I know I will be planning a lot of mine. I’m ok with it.
Post # 5
@MarryMeTiffany: @mwitter80: Thanks ladies! I really don’t mind doing the decorations & such but I REALLY REALLY REALLY don’t want to do the “planning”.. We have 2 other events for the home this spring (one Feb & one Mar) that I am partially overseeing AND I do the bookkeeping for my mom’s bookkeeping business so I’m in the midst of the year of the year “fun stuff”……. Sigh, I’ve felt like crazy pregnant lady the last few days & I think the fact that I didn’t get a bridal shower has had a bit to do with it as well. *sigh* Today with her pushing me booking things and making the calls just kinda overwhelmed me. lol
Post # 6
@runsyellowlites: Sorry you’re stuck doing all the planning. I would be annoyed if I had to call my Mother-In-Law and ask her how much/what she could contribute to my own baby shower. BUT, maybe your mom is just as uncomfortable asking your MIL? With everything else going on right now, I would just let it be (yea, it kinda sucks). Even if it’s as simple as sending out evites to your friends asking them to come over on xx date and time for a shower/pot luck…at least you’ll get what the point of the shower is–which is family and friends coming together to congratulate and celebrate you. There may/may not be games/diaper cake, etc, but at least you’ll have a get together?
Post # 7
@Okole Maluna: Thanks! I feel much better after venting & I just passed on the venue contact info to my mom kinda just disregarding her asking me to take care of it. She seemed to accept it well.
My mom really just does NOT plan things… EVER.. she’s always either not done it at all or passed it to me. She seriously looked at me 4 weeks before my wedding and said “Oh… we never gave you a bridal shower..” smh lol
Given the bridal shower thing I’m pretty set on my “blog worthy” baby shower…. lol I know I’ll find a middle ground, just gotta get those hormones under control. lol
Post # 8
omgooooosh I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am not pregnant yet but I had this issue with my bridal shower and will have it again with my baby shower…..I will do all the planning, decorating and delegating. I have almways been the planner/organizer/DOER of my sister & mom. They have good intentions but they just…aren’t good. Even when my mom has a dinner party…I show up an hour earlier and RE-PLAN everything that my mom had planned because she is just…not organized. It’s all good though….as long as your mom “feels” like shes doing something…because she is probably really excited about “planning” your shower.
My advice is to honestly just do what you think needs to be done if you can;t trust that she’ll do it. It sucks because i’m sure your so busy, tired and stressed as it is….but, chances are if you don’t do it–it wont get done right.
Post # 9
I’d be so embarrassed planning my own. I hope your mom steps it up…
Post # 10
@TurtleDoves: ding ding ding ding! that’s SO it! I found resolve knowing that she’s not intentionally trying to cause me grief or disappoint me… she really just isn’t wired like that. *shrugs shoulders*
@daybyday: Never gonna happen. lol I’m okay with planning it (kinda), like coming up with the theme, where I wanted it, and getting my craft on with decorating BUT I just didn’t want to have to do the assigning and delegating for mere time/stress purposes… I want/need the go-to person to be SOMEONE ELSE! lol