- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
My Fiance & I travel alot for work & recently settled in Charlotte, NC to grow some roots for a family of our own. Needless to say, my friends & all of my FI’s family are in Chicago or Mexico. The majority of my family (including mom, grandma, & aunts) are in Florida. I had been dreading dress shopping…
I went dress shopping by myself, took pictures, set up a “virtual dressing room” for my best friends & mom to see, & asked for votes. I am trying to include them as mush as possible. My mom offered to drive up (6-7hr drive) to go with me to try on some more, or retry the ones I already did. I knew it would be stressful for her to cram in a drive.
Anyway, There was a landslide vote to dress #5:I liked the shape (fit n flare) but the dress itself didn’t work for me. I decided to continue looking. After 3 salons, I tried one on & tears came to my eyes… I knew that this would be the “one”. I asked my mom if she wanted to see me in it, she came that following Saturday. I was happy that she wouldn’t completely miss out on helping her only daughter pick out a wedding gown. When she got here, I tried on the one that she liked first, then my runner-up dress, then a new gown the consultant picked, lastly my favorite dress. My mom didn’t know the order of gown though. When I came out in the first gown, she had a huge smile on her face, & nodding yes. She saw the back (corset) and then didn’t really like it, but didn’t say anything. She sat playing solitare on her phone the rest of the dresses. Glancing up when I’d walk out of the room then back to playing unless I asked her something. I had to ask her 2-3x to look at the train on my fav gown because it has some pretty designs. WTF?! I would’ve just bought the dress I liked, & saved my energy. Instead, I worked 2, 12 hr night shifts followed by 3 hrs of sleep for me to get up and go to the salons with her. I was doing it for her, trying to put her forward. After all the gowns tried on & had asked what she thought of them. She said no to the corest backs (which I actually like but explained that a zipper could be placed) She refused to comment on my fav dress (allure 8921), which led me to think she doesn’t like it. I can’t think of a reason why she couldn’t say that she liked SOMETHING about my fav gown, even if it was as simple as “oh, it has a zipper-back, I like that” I pushed for an opinion because this was the reason for her visit… She started talking about how she needed a MOB gown.
Maybe she knew I was going to buy it no matter what… I don’t know. I tried gowns of her style. She flat out said, “Oh your right that material doesn’t compliment you” when she saw those pictures. The gown I picked is not my typical “style” I usually wear something simple. But it’s my wedding day, I loved the way I looked the 1st AND the 2nd time around in the same gown, my Fiance loves the picture of the gown.
Anyway, I feel better writing this out & thanks to all who read this!
Anyone else have a strained relationship with their mother?