(Closed) Moms

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Are you arranging transportation at all? No, I dont think its your responsibilty to arrange this for her. What is the Future Mother-In-Law doing? Can you ask her if can go with a family member or bridal party member? 

My grandma was the only one traveling from afar and wouldnt have transportation, so we offered her to ride with us home, which we all just piled in whoever’s car after (that wasnt drinking of course) 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

How is your wedding party getting from A to B?  Cannot she not go with them?  Or, just put her in a cab.  If she doesn’t drive, then yes, as her daughter I would probably insure that I mde arrangements for her to get to the reception.

Post # 4
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8007 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If you don’t think it’s your responsibility how on earth should it be your bridesmaid’s responsibility to deal with your mother?

If your mother is an independent adult with transportation she should be able to handle this on her own. If she’s not you’ll have to figure something out. 

Post # 5
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6370 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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producersarah :  Is your mom not going to be IN any of your pictures?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

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producersarah :  Does your mother drive or is she always dependent upon others to get from one place to another? (ie was this a predictable issue?)

Post # 9
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7800 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Can you not give her a pre-paid visa card and she can cab to/from her hair appt? She is an adult right? Just because you drive her everywhere in your day to day life doesnt mean you should have to on your wedding day.

eta – your mom sounds like a peach. I change my answer lol. Tell her “sorry, we’re going to be busy that day. You will need to find alternative transportation.”

Dont let her yell at you. Walk away. Hang up. You are also an adult and can only let people treat you this way if you allow it. Stop allowing it!

Post # 10
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300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I don’t think its your responsibility. But if it was me, I would just get an uber to take her wherever and be done with it. One less thing you have to worry about.

Post # 11
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851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Book her ubers, you can order it from your phone and your account.

It would just be a logistics mess driving her everywhere 

Post # 12
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8007 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

OMG–just imagining you in labor and her telling you she needs you to give her a ride to the hospital so she can be there for the birth of her grandchild.

Does she have any family friends attending the wedding? Aunts/Uncles? If Uber isn’t an option perhaps your venue can suggest some transportation possibilities. 

Post # 14
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

What do you mean when you say your Mother-In-Law is condensing?????  Did you mean condescending, as in looks down on you and your mom?  

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