Post # 1
Hi Bees! So last week after I told my dad my wedding dress was in and brought it to his house to store, he informed me he has my mom’s wedding dress from 1969…47 years old (she passed 12.5 years ago).
I was surprised and shocked as I thought it was long gone…my sister took it out the preservation as a teenager at our old house at least 20+ years ago. So he bring it out, in the preservation bag and hands it to me…said he was thinking of donating it and that it’s kind of emotional for him.
I went home and tried it on and it fits (though my mom was 24 lbs lighter than me..she was also married at 24 and I’m 34). Bees..it’s gorgeous…it’s from 1969, long sleeve & high neck with lace on chest and upper sleeves and cuff. It also has a long bow/train that snaps on as well as a veil w/ a flower-like thing on top. Had I known we had this, I would have looked into using this for my dress but have it recreated. But I have my dress…I love it and it cost quite a bit so I want to wear it the entire time (ceremony & reception)
I’d like to do something with it…any suggestions? A girlfriend suggested a rehearsal dinner dress which I really like the idea of. I also considered a clutch for my wedding and using the train/bottom of dress for future children baptism gowns.
A slight possible dilemma: My sister had asked my dad to keep it out because she wanted to look at it. She’s married (twice) with two sons. She can/is emotional so I would not want to upset her cutting up the dress. Though I also thought of doinga photo shoot in it before I have the dress cut..maybe ask her to get some pics in it too
Additionally, I have 3 older brothers – I thought I could have Christmas ornaments or small pillows or something made for them
Anyone ever do any of this? And once I do decide…who do I find to do this? I have used a seamstress who also used to make wedding dresses (she alters them on the side for a bridal shop in town). But this dress is very old, from 1969 so I want to make sure it is in the right/careful/delicate hands.
Post # 2
Why not wear it to your ceremony and then use your dress as a reception dress?
eta: It could be altered to be like new, as in… High lace neck into an illusion neck, change/lose the sleeves etc with a stellar seamstress.
Post # 3
My mom still had her dress at my Grandma’s house. She made a garter for me out of the material. She also used some of the material for the “pillow” we had in our ring box.
Post # 4
summerbride2016: First, I think this all sounds like a great idea! Whichever way you go – a rehearsal dress (if your siblings are ok with it) and the sentimental gifts to them, or just the gifts.
I was not able to wear my mother or grandmothers dresses for a number of reasons, one being they had become discolored over the years. However, I did wear my grandmothers veil. At the time of her wedding the big half-box like hat covered in tiny white flowers was the style, and it was cathedral length so it had to be altered to fit my style. It was not preserved and given the material of a veil, it was very delicate. I took it to my seamstress doing my dress and she took great care of it. I would imagine yours would do they same. It helped with her also knowing my dress so well that she made them look made for one another. Also, I don’t think it could hurt to ask her about other items being made, pillows and whatnot. I bet she’d happily do it (for a price of course)!
Post # 6
I think the idea of ornaments for you and your siblings is a great one. I’d want to find a way to do something where it would be seen or used somewhat regularly. My mother’s wedding dress has become a Halloween costume and ritual wear- still being used for joyous and sacred occasions but not necessarily at the same time.
You could also modify it for the rehearsal dinner and then use any material that is removed for the ornaments.
If you planned on having a memorial table you could use some fabric from the dress on there along with pictures of your mother and other departed loved ones.
Post # 7
summerbride2016: I love all of your ideas! The photo shoot for you and your sis is fun and a fantastic idea!! Then using the fabric for other things – the ornaments for every sibling, the clutch… maybe also a garter? Or have it altered into a shorter reception dress? Even if you just wear it the last hour of the reception (so you can still wear the dress you bought most of the time). It would be great to get a few pics in with it, but I don’t think you have to wear it the entire time.
Also, if any of the kids in your family are still young, you can use the fabric to make “tooth fairy” pillows. 🙂
I understand how this must be emotional for everyone. It’s hard not to be sentimental with things like that, but if you take it apart and do something else with it, I think that’s a good way to honor your mom. 🙂
Post # 8
I love the photo shoot for you and your sis. If it was me, I’d make sure my sister was ok with the plan and come up with the plan together. After the photo shoot, you could have a bunch of quilts made for everyone in the family using a square or two from the dress in each one.
Post # 9
A family friend used my mom’s dress to make a garter for me. It was so lovely that I couldn’t dare do the “garter toss” with it so no one really saw it but I got some beautiful photos of it.
I’m not super creative but I’m sure Pinterest could help you out! Maybe have a piece of it framed in a shadow box with other momentums (or your parents’ wedding photo) for your siblings?
Maybe you could have parts of it sewn into your veil?
Post # 10
Why do you have to cut it up? I like the idea of a photo shoot for you and your sis, and maybe your dad too, but why alter it just for altering it? If everyone is too emotional and just wants to keep it, then just keep it. If its the other way and they prefer to alter it, the your ideas for ornaments/pillows/keepsake gifts is great. Just if youre not going to wear it, seriously think about not cutting it up at all just yet.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2016 - New Hope Presbyterian Church/Graystone Quarry
I think your mom would want you to incorporate it in a way that is special to you, and it is a great idea to involve your sister, too.
Post # 12
My parents were married in the 80’s so my Mom’s dress has big puffy sleeves and isn’t what I envisioned for my day. I got my own dress as well, and plan to do bridal portraits in my Mom’s dress 🙂 I’m not sure if that’s an option for you. I might consider wearing it to your bridal shower (if you’re having one) over the rehearsal dinner, but only because I wouldn’t want my Fiance to see me in a wedding dress the night before our wedding.
Post # 13
I would alter it an wear it to your bridal shower or something and then you can cut it up and make other things with it, love the idea of cloths for your children’s baptism. I would definitely talk to your sister first though.
Post # 14
Are you Catholic? I always imagined using my own dress to be repurposed for a baptism gown. Do you think that’s something all your siblings can get behind (I love the idea of having something of your moms at each grandchilds life events).
Post # 15
That is amazing that it is so well preserved! I’m sure it’s gorgeous.
I also love the photoshoot idea. I’m not sure how intricate your new dress is, can you slip this one on for a few photos on your wedding day? That way you are all dolled up and can get some photos with your groom/dad/sister? Or, as previously mentioned a separate photo shoot with you and your sister would also be so nice.
Either way, I think before you cut into it, you should talk to your sister. Maybe make it a group decision. I hope this helps 😀