Post # 1
I originally wanted to wear my mom’s wedding dress, as I have always enjoyed it as a kid. However, I am having definite second thoughts. I don’t like the thought of altering it as it seems stressful and expensive, and if I’m going to change it, it seems I might as well get a new dress. I do like the way it looks as is. However, I went wedding dress shopping and realized how GOOD wedding dresses can make a girl look!!! I’ve always been a bit body-conscious but am having renewed self confidnece just due to how good I felt trying on wedding dresses… (I am looking at lace, fit and flare, strapless dresses).
So, I’m trying to make a choice. I still like the idea of wearing it, partially because it’s different from what most wedding dresses look like and my wedding is becoming very mainstream (partially due to his family). I mix modern and vintage elements in my style so I don’t think there is an obvoius choice re: this vs a brand new wedding dress. Part of me gets very excited about showing up in my mom’s dress; the other part of me very excited about looking my absolute best on my wedding day. Of course I like the idea of not spending tons of money on a dress, but budget isn’t of foremost concern in this.
I would really appreciate your opinions and also any similar experiences!!! Thank you! Love this place 🙂
Post # 3
Personally, I would buy a new dress and wear your moms for the rehearsal or later at the reception. Its a pretty dress and compliments you, but I would still want a dress that I picked out.
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Post # 4
I think that dress is gorgeous and looks fantastic on you! I also think that if you want to alter it it will still be really special. one of my nest friends got married this summer and pretty much took apart her moms wedding dress and used pieces of it in her dress ( which she and her mom made) and it was the prettiest dress I’ve ever seen and fit her peronality perfectly. I know it made her feel really great to incorperate her mothers dress in her big day!
Post # 5
@shannon_entropy: I am so jealous! While it’s not my style, your mom’s dress is ten times more my style than my mom’s 80s atrocity!! What kind of wedding are you having? Rustic? Informal? Then I definitely would wear hers? If it’s ballroom/ church, then go more modern.
Post # 6
Thank you for the answers so far 🙂 Yes, I forgot to mention that I would like to have a more casual wedding, but still nice. It will be an outdoor ceremony in a natural field setting, and the reception is in a gorgeous hall of sorts, with stained wood walls so it’s a bit rustic. I would say simple but elegant is my goal!
Post # 7
@shannon_entropy: Wear mom’s dress for the ceremony and change into a sexy, modern dress for the reception!
Post # 8
You look beautiful, but it doesn’t look like a wedding dress to me.
Post # 9
Personally? I really love this dress but I tend to love vintage-y things. I too try to mix and match in my everyday wardrobe like you. What sort of alterations would you do to the dress?
That being said – maybe try on a few dresses and get a feel before you commit to wearing it. Decide if this dress fits your venue and the feel of your wedding – or maybe use it as a ceremony dress and change into something else for the reception?
Post # 10
if you are into the rustic style that dress is pretty awesome! I think that I would probably wear it for the rehearsal or even a second dress as that looks really comfy but still get the dress I want for the pictures/ceremony
Post # 11
Whenever I see polls like this, I wonder what the fiancé would say. I always assume he’d prefer a new sexy dress versus an old family dress. What do you think your fiancé would prefer? Go with that. It’s his wedding too!
Post # 12
@Pinkmoon – Good point! I will have to discuss (not show pics, he’s traditional) with him. All I know is that he wants me to wear a flower crown…(?) Although he’s the kind of guy who doesn’t know the difference between a skirt and a dress, I think he could still tell a sexy dress is a sexy dress!
Post # 13
@shannon_entropy: A flower crown would look so beautiful with this dress. I really like how it looks on you. How would you alter it?
Post # 14
@shannon_entropy: I would NOT call this frumpy– with some fantastic jewelry this is so fun and sweet!!! I really like the top, but if you think about alterations focus on the waist and the bottom of the dress. Possibly change the skirt so that it’s more flowy– getting rid of that bottom him towards your shins all together. A seamstress could take new fabric and make a new skirt to match your top.
Alterations on this would be cheap– it’s not intricate material.
Post # 15
@shannon_entropy: very pretty dress!! I voted to wear it but with a few alterations. You’re quite petite and that overlay on the top overwhelms you a little. I think you should take it off altogether and make the top similar to one of the styles below, in a matching ivory colour of course. Looking forward to seeing what you do with it!
Post # 16
@shannon_entropy: i think i would wear your mom’s dress to the rehearsal and then pick your own for the wedding day.