(Closed) Moms, How close is too close??

posted 5 years ago in Home
  • poll: What is the ideal distance to live from family(yours or his),when you have little ones?
    Walking distance : (14 votes)
    10 %
    In the same town : (50 votes)
    34 %
    Less than an hour drive : (48 votes)
    33 %
    More than an hour but less than 3 hours is best : (19 votes)
    13 %
    Over three hours works for us! (we like occational, but extended visits) : (7 votes)
    5 %
    A plane ride away is my comfort zone : (5 votes)
    3 %
    Is a different planet an option? : (2 votes)
    1 %
    All of these options stink! Let me tell you what I really think below! : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My parents are 5 hours; my inlaws are 16 hours (by car).  Ideally, we’d relocate so we’d be about 5-6 hours from each set of parents.

    Personally, I like the 5-ish hour distance.  My parents are close enough that we see them frequently (once every month or two), but far enough away that visits have to be planned in advance.  I would love to have free babysitting in the form of grandparents, but I alos like our family’s independence, so I wouldn’t want them any closer than they are now.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1082 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I said ideally in the same town, however my parents live 45 minutes away and DH parents live 4 hours away.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2107 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    My father lives in the same city, and the in-laws live about 40 minutes away.  At first I was going to say that ideally they would be further than that, but then realized that that would mean we’d have to actually stay with them when we go visit them.  The odd visit every few weeks that we do now is the lesser of two evils in my mind. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m not a mom (or anywhere near that), but I grew up next door to my mom’s mom and her stepfather – and as a kid I LOVED it. It made for a really tight relationship between my brother and I and our grandparents. I think it drove my dad a little crazy, though. 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    2815 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I wish my mom was a little closer because she’s very unimposing and wouldn’t bother us.  MIL is far enough…a 5 hour plane ride.  The woman drives me nuts!

    Post # 9
    Member
    1750 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Mrs. Aardvark:  I would want my kid to be in the same city as their family. I’m not sure if it’s going to happen though.

    Post # 10
    Member
    14067 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Not a mom yet, but same town or walking distance would be great for me.  My parents would happily baby sit so that we dont have to pay for day care.  We’re 40 minutes away right now, and it feels very far.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2077 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m not a mom or TTC, but we currently live 2.5 hours away from both of our parents.  When we do have chidlren, I would prefer that we not live any futher away than we are currently.  I was really close with my grandparents as a kid (still am!) and I’d love for our kids to have the same kind of relationship with our parents.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1037 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    we live about 15 minutes away from both sets of our parents. we looked at a house right by his parents (walking distance) & from their house you could see the house we were looking too buy. for me that was too close. they are kinda annoying when it comes to spying on us-me. i think 15 minutes is fine. i am very close with my parents so i wouldnt want a hour drive. his parents dont come around as much so it doesnt really matter.

    Post # 13
    Member
    471 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I like that my mom is 20 minutes away. Far enough that she isn’t here every day but close enough to fill in babysit when the kids are sick and not allowed at the sitters and she takes them for overnight visits for us to have date nights.

    Post # 14
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Yeah.  Well, my dad lives in a neighboring town, so he is pretty cose.  I am actually really glad.  My mums, in a dream world, would live here, but unfortunately I need to keep my distance from that one.  She is WAY across the country, so is DH’s WHOLE family.  I am glad to have some family (extended) on my dad’s side here though!

    Post # 16
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    7872 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My mum (divorced from my dad) is about a 10 minute drive away, which I think is good. Close enough that I could ask her to babysit in the evenings without a lot of notice, not so close that I saw her all the time. Other parents are an hour or more away. It would’ve been nicer if his dad and stepmum had been closer, for daytime babysitting, because they were the only retired grandparents.

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