(Closed) Moms, How close is too close??

posted 7 years ago in Home
  • poll: What is the ideal distance to live from family(yours or his),when you have little ones?
    Walking distance : (14 votes)
    10 %
    In the same town : (50 votes)
    34 %
    Less than an hour drive : (48 votes)
    33 %
    More than an hour but less than 3 hours is best : (19 votes)
    13 %
    Over three hours works for us! (we like occational, but extended visits) : (7 votes)
    5 %
    A plane ride away is my comfort zone : (5 votes)
    3 %
    Is a different planet an option? : (2 votes)
    1 %
    All of these options stink! Let me tell you what I really think below! : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 17
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    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    For my parents – we want to be within an hour.  For his parents – I’d really like to check the different planet box!

    Post # 18
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    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    i would rather live a little closer not only do you have free babysitters but the kids get to have a good relationship with theyre family and youve always got a hand close by when you need it ! our family all lives far enough that we dont see them very often and it sucks for us that we dont have there help it sucks for our son that he doesnt know them and it sucks for them that they see our son calling other people that are not related aunty,uncle,grammy,pappa ect. how ever if your parents or inlaws are over bearing or something or not sure when theyre crossing the line than it would probably be better to live a little further away so you have to plan visits 

    Post # 19
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    1477 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My family is about 2 hours away. My in-laws are about 15 minutes away. I’m pretty independent, so my parents are the right distance away. We see my in-laws about once a week, and sometimes that can be a little too much. On the bright side, they are more than willing to baby sit when we have our baby.

    Post # 20
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    2580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We’re not parents yet, but as we talk about looking for houses I’ve put this on my list of factors! My parents live 14 hours away, and while I would love them to be closer when we have kids, I also value my independence. My ILs are currently about 30 minutes from us and I think we will need to find the right balance/distance when we buy a house and have children.

    I know I would like a buffer zone–at least a few miles between us. We would love and appreciate their help, but I also don’t want them to drop in unannounced.

    Post # 21
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    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My mom and Hubby’s parents are both in town. That’s exactly the way that I want it to be. Hubby was talking about wanting to move when we first got married, but I said that I wanted to wait until after the kids that we have are a little bigger. I NEED my mom around lol. Good thing I said that, because we are now at 4.5 months.

    Post # 22
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    1096 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My parents live 600 miles away and visit about 4-5 times a year for a weekend at a time. My inlaws live 3000 miles away and visit once a year if that and stay for 7-10 days. I’m sure my in-laws will visit more once we have a baby but for now I like things the way they are.

    Post # 23
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    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My in-laws are about 30 minutes away (different city but both of our cities are suburbs of the same large city).

    My parents are currently ~11-12 hours away (by car) but when they retire, they’ll be moving closer and will be about 5.5 hours away.

    I think it will be great aving one set of grandparents so close.  I wish both could be nearby but I am glad that my parents will eventually be much closer than they are now.

    Post # 24
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    11232 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We aren’t TTC yet, but ideally, we’d live in the town we live in now. My Future In-Laws live here, so they’ll be within 15 minutes of us, and then within 30 minutes of my grandma (for holidays) and most of the rest of my family. The rest of the family is about 3 hours away.

    Post # 25
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    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    We currently live about an hour from my parents, but ideally, I would like to live within a couple miles.  I’m really close with my parents. 

    Post # 26
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    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m on the other side of the fence. I’m on mom to a 26 year old married son with a 4 month old daughter who I care for a few days of the week. my husband and I live about 10 minutes away and it makes it easier for coming here to take care of her. I know my son and his wife appreciate it.

    Post # 27
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My parents are 5 hours away and my Mother-In-Law is 2 hours away.  I think within an hour’s drive would be ideal (close enough for frequent visits, but not so close that they drop in all the time).  But our families aren’t overbearing; if they were, I might want more distance/independence. 

    Post # 28
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    1512 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I had to move back in with my parents, but before that I lived an hour away. It was nice because my mom wasn’t just dropping in all the time to see my daughter, but they were close enough that babysitting was convenient for both sides. We would meet at a gas station half way so we only drove about 15 minutes.

    I don’t particularly like my parents, so I would say it’s good to put a couple hours between the two of you, but if you’re closer, then maybe an hour?

    Post # 29
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    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My parent are about 15-20 mins away along with his mother.  His dad is about 45 minutes away.  I personally think in general we are too close to our mothers but, we are far enough away where we don’t see them that often.  However, the gym both me and my Fiance and my mother belong to is about 4 mins from us and we run into her at the gym all the time, not ideal, but it happens.

    Post # 30
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    4505 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Both of our families are pretty scattered. I wish we all lived on one giant compound, within walking distance of each other! 

    Post # 31
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    1525 posts
    Bumble bee

    Most of our family is within a half hour. My dad is the farthest at 4 hours, but that’s fine with us. I think it works well because it’s easy for visiting and seeing each other a lot.

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