(Closed) Moms, How close is too close??

posted 7 years ago in Home
  • poll: What is the ideal distance to live from family(yours or his),when you have little ones?
    Walking distance : (14 votes)
    10 %
    In the same town : (50 votes)
    34 %
    Less than an hour drive : (48 votes)
    33 %
    More than an hour but less than 3 hours is best : (19 votes)
    13 %
    Over three hours works for us! (we like occational, but extended visits) : (7 votes)
    5 %
    A plane ride away is my comfort zone : (5 votes)
    3 %
    Is a different planet an option? : (2 votes)
    1 %
    All of these options stink! Let me tell you what I really think below! : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    1221 posts
    Bumble bee

    we currently live a mile away from my parents… its nice! DH’s parents live in a different state

    Post # 33
    Member
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee

    My parents live 3 hours away and my Inlaws are walking distance… god I wish it was the reverse. No kids yet but I am already dreading it lol

    Post # 34
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    6997 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My parents live in our city. They are only about 20 minutes down the road. His parents are a little over an hour drive from us. We are both very lucky to have parents who don’t push themselves into our lives but we love having the option to see either one as much as we please. Typically we see his parents once or twice a month. We will drive down there on a saturday or sunday and spend the day with them and we see my parents a bit more.

    Our first baby is due in Janurary and I plan on taking full advantage of having our parents and siblings close by! Lots of babysitters!

    Post # 35
    Member
    7900 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    We are about 6 hours from our families and we would really like to be closer, preferably in the same greater urban area. I have no one to call last minute to watch the little one (when he comes) and making sure everyone sees the little one a lot is complicated.

    Post # 36
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    9134 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    MY Future In-Laws live just under an hour away.  My parents live just shy of 3 hours away.  I like the distance where I know they will call to make sure we’re home first before just dropping by for a visit.  3 hours is almost too much because we can’t make a daytrip during the holidays but somewhere between an hour and two hours is perfect for us.

    Post # 37
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    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @StL.Ashley:  My grandparents lived in the same neighborhood, but not on the same street. I loved it growing up. They babysat for me and I would spend summers at their place (both of my parents worked). 

    But, recently, I talked to my mom and she said when they bought that house, she was furious. She admits that it was nice having them close, but it was also really frustrating at times. 

    Post # 38
    Hostess
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Less than an hour — I want babysitters!!! 😉

    Post # 39
    Member
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I flippantly said a plane ride away…

    I do actually live a plane ride away from my parents and have for years – we see them once or twice during the year when they visit us and my daughter goes out to them for a week or two in the summer.

    I live down the street from my SO’s mother and see her about 3 times a week, but just for pick-up/drop-off of my daughter (she cares for her on the days I work late). I am beyond grateful for her help and support… but she did suggest more than once that we should all buy a duplex together… which is WAY too close for comfort. I appreciate her so much, because SO and I are long distance these days and until my child and I move to join him, we’re really on our own with no other support or help here.

    Once we’re living together as a family again, I’ll be pretty comfortable being so far from all the parents. I love them all very much, but I like our own time together and I like having a bit more control on their influence in our lives. We also all typically get along much better when we’re together for short periods of time with clear ends in sight.

    Post # 40
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    933 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Mrs. Aardvark:  I am going through the same thing right now. Not planning to TTC anytime soon, but eventually I want to live closer to my mother.  The thing is, we live really close to his parents right now, so it would be a big decision to leave.

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