(Closed) Mom’s make the “waiting” process really hard (LONG)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

As a rule… I didn’t bring this up to my mom, but just once.

“Hey mom, if ELM and I get married… would you and dad possibly be up for paying for a wedding?”

Mom: “Can’t you”

Me: “Not if we invite ALL the family”

Mom: “Well, I guess… why… are you getting married?”

Me: “Maybe next fall?”

Mom: “Oh, ok”

And then, my 16 yo brother in the back seat (we were in the car): “Uhhh… Kim… you’re not ENGAGED”

Signh.

Post # 5
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My OH asked for my parents blessing and now my Dad keeps teasing him about it, my OH and my family have a great relationship so my Dad thinks it’s okay to taunt him all the time (IE when he asked for their blessing he said my dad asked him to give a presention of his plan for the next ten years and to answer ten question, if his presention and question answers were good enough he would get the blessing – obviously joking but still! Poor boy!)

I think parents like to have fun at their childrens expense – no matter how much they know!

Post # 6
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466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sleepingbeauty88:Maybe he knows all this and is waiting until you’ve calmed down to ask?

It sounds silly, but that’s a backwards thing that I think guys would do. You know, to make sure you want “him” and not just the “hype” or the “party”. I love my mom SO much (as I’m sure you do too), but she’s… like me, or maybe I’m like her. We both tend to LOSE it in the face of crisis or anxiety. 

Think about another time that you had to go through something, who was there for you? For me, I got laid off in October, and it absolutely crushed me. My mom lost it more than I did and put me in crisis mode (I KNOW she was just worried about my, and how I’d take care of myself, but it didn’t help!) I have a VERY good friend that totally picked up the pieces, and now she’s part of “Ringwatch 2k11” with me.

Maybe just aim the more positive thoughts to your mom, but save your anxieties for the Bee or someone else?

Post # 7
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Maybe she does know something, like he has spoken to your parents. I dont know why she would say something to get your hopes up if she didnt know something.

Post # 10
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Wow, your moms sound way more supportive than mine.  My mom is so rushed with waiting and wanting to plan a wedding (she’s contributing but not a lot, and that’s fine)- her best friend’s daughter just got engaged this summer- it’s really all my mom talks about… :/

Well, she found out that my boyfriend is planning my proposal on a upcoming trip 6 months away.  Now, she says, “that’s stupid- he’s wasting money- he should just propose now.”  Granted, my mother loves my boyfriend (she can be a bit harsh, lol) she’s very blunt)… but really?! “Mom, you’re making waiting MUCH harder for me- when you’re so negative about it.” I told her that, she still doesn’t get it! 

Post # 12
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

@sleepingbeauty88:  I agree with your best friend.  He probably has his mind made up. 

I’m also guessing that he knows what you REALLY want and that while you’d be happy with a more economical selection, in your heart, you still want your emerald cut soitaire. 

Maybe you could show him the JamesAllen website.  There are some nice Emerald cuts at good prices.  πŸ™‚

http://www.jamesallen.com/loose-diamonds-search/?shape=Emerald

Post # 13
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684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@sleepingbeauty88: Sorry… I thread jacked a little!   :O But I am excited about our trip! πŸ™‚  I think it’s cute that you’re mom’s excited!

Post # 15
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My mum is an absolute nutter!! I once mentioned that we were thinking of getting married and she actually EMAILED venues to get prices. My Dad had to calm her down because she was really being crazy about it all. At least I know where I get it from!!!

I think your mum was just teasing you – whether she knows anything or not, but shes having fun with you πŸ™‚

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