Post # 1
I really need advice. My son is 6 (in kindergarten) and we just had our first official basketball practice today. My son is really tall for his age (4’2) and we thought it would be fun. The coach said it was fine that he was a total beginner, with absolutely no experience, but when we went tonight, EVERY SINGLE KID knew how to play. They could dribble, pass, and shoot. My son couldn’t do a single thing. I understand why, b/c he hasn’t learned how to play but he was uncomfortable and so stiff. The coach at one point told him to relax (in a nice way). I am torn b/c the coach says he needs to start somewhere, and as long as he is having fun…which I do agree…but…it is really a sad sight to see him drop the ball on his foot, kick it accidentally, and pass to no one (just throwing it). Part of me knows he will learn and he could grow to really like it but another part of me wants to protect him until he can learn the basic skills from us at home and play another season in the future. I can’t tell if my son is somewhat coordinated or not at all yet since he just doesn’t know the game. I also worry that some parents might get mad if he misses something in the game since he will have games in the future. The coach admitted that sometimes parents could be like that. And I don’t want him in that situation either. I’m a teacher and my husband too, so we work with kids every day, but with my own kid…I just don’t know what the right thing to do is. Just hoping some other moms could give me a different perspective…
As a parent, what would you do? Any advice would be appreciate.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t pull him out just yet…. But I would up his at home practice. I’m sure your DS would love the extra time with you and your Darling Husband and he’ll probably pick it up & get comfortable quicker than you think.
DS is 7 and still hasn’t wanted to get into any sports… except barely mentioning soccer. I worry the same thing about not having put him in something sooner & him not already knowing the game, but I am NOT an athlete and until this past April I didn’t really have a guy to teach him anything.
I’m sure that as long as you and your Darling Husband just continue to encourage & practice with your DS that he’ll get into his own groove. =)
Post # 4
I’m totally not there yet (my son is 17 mos) but I did coach Upwards 4th/5th grade bball a couple years ago.
I’d say let you son be the guide. If he’s ok with how practice went – then let him keep going. It’s also a great teaching oppotunity for ‘practicing’. BUT. If he crys after every practice and it’s super traumatic – maybe it’s best to wait a while.
I’d also recommend buying a basketball for him and spending 30 minutes everyday doing the same stuff from practice at home with him. Dribbling – Passing etc. He’ll start to pick things up.
Really the only way he’s going to learn a lot is to be with other kids playing and watching. Even if you teach him at home and sign him up for another season the other kids will have a leg up on him. It could be that he’s not a ‘natural athlete’ and he’ll always be a step behind the other kids… but as long as he’s having fun let him play.
My half-sister at 12 always shot the ball as soon as it was in her hands no matter where she was on the court… so of course she rarely got passed the ball – but she still LOVES playing basketball 🙂
Post # 5
Give him a little bit my son started hockey at 7 and some of the other kids started before him he was shakey at first but he has really caught up to them all
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice ladies. WE do have a basketball hoop and ball and my husband has tried to teach him/work with him in the past but my son can be difficult and not want to do it. It sucks. I guess we’ll just try working with him for now and see how he feels by the next practice. Ugh…so hard with children sometimes! 🙁
Post # 7
I know once they get the hang of it they seem to have more fun
Post # 8
He’ll probably learn rapidly, to be honest. I won’t be surprised if he catches up to the other kids by the end of the season. (I’m speaking as a coach, not a parent). My MIP (most improved players) are always the ones who come with no experience because they have so much to learn and usually do manage to learn it.
I agree with PP, let him guide it. As long as he likes it, have him do it. It could also be a good lesson in working hard, even if you’re not the best.
Post # 9
Since you hav a hoop and he does not seem to want to play with his parents (understandable, you have a height advantage), why not invite 1 of his new teammates over to play. Also, have you tried just dribbling a ball with him or teaching him HORSE/PIG. I am not a parent but used to coach tee ball and know that young kids are aware of who is “good” at the sport and who isn’t which is not to say that you should pull him out but encourage him to improve. Some kids just don’t like sports though so if he comes to you and asks to quit, I would not force him to continue past the first season. Also, it could just be the sport.
Another factor is freinds. I started playing baseball at age 6 because my best friend at the time was playing and my parents signed me up late and got me on her team even though I knew nothing about the sport I loved it. It helped that my older cousin was playing as well (in a different league) and we would play catch together. Is there a friend or neighbor who also plays that could help him get into it too.