- Miss Marbles
- 7 years ago
took away the soother? or how you plan on it?
took away the soother? or how you plan on it?
How old is your LO?
Aw! What a big girl! Our daycare doesn’t allow binks in the pretoddler classroom, but they are breaking in our class because almost all of the kids still need them to fall asleep for naps. It’s not so bad though because she was only ever allowed to have it for naps, and not just whenever.
We haven’t quite figured out how to take it away yet. But I saw something cute on Supernanny where the kids put all of their pacifiers into an envelope and “mailed” them to kids without any. It was a way for them to voluntarily give them up and feel good about where it went. If Dirty Delete is still using it at an age where she can understand that, we might use that technique.
@MightySapphire: How old is your LO?
Come to think of it, the day care hasn’t even mentioned anything about having soothers.. but I’m sure they won’t have a problem with it. I know that sometimes people have a hard time putting her to sleep so the soother would help.
Do you have a cut off age for her to have it? I was going to be the “let her have it until she can understand why we are throwing it away” kinda mom because she only used it to sleep anyhow.. but lately everyone has been saying (and I’ve been seeing on here) the oldest a child should have one is 2. So my SO and I discussed it and decided to give it a shot. (with the exception of nap time)
I think that it a REALLY cute way to take away the soother! My girlfriend told me that she cut off the ends of her LO soother and they realized that it wasn’t the same anymore and no longer wanted it…but doing that worries me. hahaha
how old do you think they should have it for? I personally think everyone is different and as long as it’s gone by the time they go to school then it’s all good (I wanted it gone way before that though). Sorry that this got pretty long! I feel like I have nobody to talk to this about with SO working like 18 hours away and my gf’s aren’t helpful. So happy for the Bee!
i did it in stages. at a year, i started letting my son have them when he woke up, took a nap and went to bed. then every once in awhile he couldn’t have it at nap time. then i just stopped giving it to him at nap time all together. then i started doing the same thing at bedtime. by one and a half, he didn’t even think about his binky anymore.
🙂 I totally get it!
My Dirty Delete is 15 months. The daycare restricts when they can have the binks because they don’t want one kid to drop one and another kid to pick it up and suck on it. It’s a sanitation issue. If you are using a home daycare I’m sure they don’t care, but ours is a govt daycare, so they are very strict on the rules.
That is a GREAT idea about making it not work anymore! My cat has on several occasions bit the ends and rendered them useless. You can just poke a hole in the end and it does the same thing. Might be an easier transition for the LO.
@MightySapphire: Oh, yeah.. as if I didn’t even think of that.
I’ll just put it in her nap sack until the day care puts them all down for a nap, since they all have their own cots and need to stay there I don’t see anyone else picking it up. Then when she’s done they will most likely put it back.
It is a government day care! If you don’t mind me asking, how much do you pay a day?
You may want to ask the daycare about them At the daycare I work at we allow parents to send them for our toddlers but ask that they stay in their bag where the child doesn’t know they exist. We tell parents we’ll give it to the child if the child asks for it or severely needs it but that never happens. Usually if children don’t know its at school they don’t worry about it because they don’t associate pacifiers with school. Personally I would let her get through some naptimes at school without it and then start phasing it out at home.
@LpCutiPie: That was the plan! 🙂
The only time she ever wants a soother is nap/bed time anyhow, so there won’t be any problems with her wanting it while they are doing activites. When we start not having it at home is when she will not have it at day care, I just don’t want to give the workers a hard time putting her to sleep if she does want it for nap time because it’s an unfamiliar place for her, strangers and I’m not there. So the soother would help, well, soothe her.
Does it bother you if the toddlers have trouble going down? For me and family members when she has sleepovers she’s amazing to put down. I guess it just worries, I guess she’s a little spoiled. She’s our only baby. 🙂 hahaha
We can’t get our little girl to take one. If there’s no food coming out of it, she doesn’t want to suck on it!
@Miss Marbles: Honestly no it doesn’t bother me at all when they have a hard time going down. I have several children that we have to sit with and rub their backs etc to put them to sleep. Thats our job. Giving her the binky at daycare and then taking it away at daycare will just make it harder on the teachers in my opinion. I’d rather see a child fuss for a day or two while they transition to the new environment than deal with them screaming for a binky for a few weeks after its taken away. If she doesn’t know that she gets the binky at school she’ll never ask for it and most likely go to bed just the same without it while at school. In my class this year I have two that are used to sleeping with binkys and two that are used to going to bed with a bottle. None of them get the binky or bottle at school and I haven’t had a single naptime issue in relation to that. Good Luck!
I am not a mom yet, however, When I was younger my mom and dad broke me of both my bottle and pacifier by cutting the tip off. To me, it was “broken” and I didn’t want it anymore. I was easy. My sisters were mad that it was broken but quickly got over it. Since then, I had suggested it to some of my parents with younger ones (when I was a pre-k teacher) and it has worked on all but 1… who ended up preferring it that way. It is definately worth a try!
My son is 20 months and I can’t for the life of me get him to give it up. He knows the word for it, so he can fully let me know when he wants it. He only uses it when he sleeps, but he has grown so attached that he sleeps with one in his mouth and one in each hand! He won’t sleep otherwise. I also let him have it in the car or else he just cries the whole trip. I have been looking into the mailing option, but I don’t think he will be able to comprehend that yet. He is so good going to sleep when he has it that I don’t want to disturb that!!! *sigh* maybe another day :/
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