MOMS- to get the mini van or not??? HELP!

posted 5 months ago in Parenting
  • poll: Which vehicle do you think I should get?
    Honda Odyssey : (20 votes)
    61 %
    Honda Pilot : (13 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 2
    10090 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I mean we have Civics so I think the CRV is a lot of space.

    I would do the Pilot based on looks which is obviously most important to me judging by my two civics.

    Vans are for serial killers and kidnappers.

    Post # 3
    1503 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I’m not a mom, but I am a nanny to 5 charges, so a third row was imperative. Like you, I couldn’t get over the stigma of mini van life.

    Last year, I purchased an SUV with a third row. My SUV is actually larger in all areas than the Honda Odyssey (length, width, height). It also has a tighter turning radius. 

    That being said, it can be a bit of a hassle to get the kids in and out of the third row since they can’t flip the seat up themselves. Also, I can only let them in and out one door/side of the vehicle since the other side has a car seat permanently installed. 

    I don’t regret purchasing an SUV for one second, but my mini van friends love theirs too. In my opinion, you are looking at a Honda. You can’t really go wrong with either!

    Post # 4
    1865 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    weimaranermom25 :  I had a Honda Element and we decided to switch to a van.  AWD is non-negotiable where we live, so we got a Toyota Sienna with AWD.  We are in love with it.  We drove down to Disney a few months ago with our then-two-year-old, and we were able to throw a decent sized Yeti cooler, a crib mattress, a toddler bedframe, and all our luggage/food in the back with room to spare.  In normal life, I have space for kids, dog crates, and a big stroller. Up until recently, I competed in dog agility so I also had room for equipment and supplies for that. If people want to judge me, they can have at it.  This is my dream vehicle lol

    Post # 5
    3060 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2006

    I always said if I had more than one kid, stigma be damned, I’d get a van. Just thinking about third row seating in an SUV makes me claustrophobic. They’re really only designed for kids and people under 5’ tall. Pointless IMO. Plus later on you have to think about vacations and sports and friends etc. With 2 kids you’ll need the extra room. Go for the Odyssey! My parents have had 2 and they will never buy anything else. 

    ETA: Another reason for the minivan. Two words: Door. Bangs. Kids love to throw the door open with zero regard for whatever is next to them. Always too fast for you to even get the words out. Sliding doors for the win! 

    Post # 6
    6432 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We went with the Toyota Sienna so no personal experience on the odyessy but I LOVE my mini van.  Seriously never looking back.  6 cup holders all within reach, and automatic doors for the kids to hop right in.  We can knock the third row down and fit in extra wide stuff and have 7 ppl fit in comfortably (we opted to not have the middle seat in the middle row).  We had been looking at the pilot.  But seriously the only drag is it is slower (it takes a lot to get up to speed in it). But I like it because I wanted more room and we have 3 kids.  The pilot just wouldn’t do it for me

    Post # 7
    8615 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    slomotion :  I’m currently researching how we can fit 2 carseats and a 90 pound dog into the backseat of our subaru impreza lol. I’m resisting the big car sooooo much even though once we have a second it would make sense for us. 

    weimaranermom25 :  I always go for the smallest cheapest car that fulfills my needs for 95% of the time. If I have the need for something bigger once in a blue moon I just rent a truck – it’s so much cheaper in the long run. But we also just aren’t car people. With just 2 kids do you really need a third row? Do you regularly drive a carpool? Do you regularly have to parallel park and fit in tight spaces?

    Post # 8
    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    slomotion :   LilliV :  Also have a civic, and the impreza is my dream upgrade! Can’t currently get our bigger rear car seat into the two door civic, which is sad. But our other vehicle is a massive truck…

    weimaranermom25 :  I’m one of three and my parents never had a van. They had regular SUV’s and eventually one with a third row when we were older and more likely to be carpooling friends. It worked out fine. I’m also on the smallest possible train for myself (F150 of my husband’s not included 😂). I’d consider your parking space, if you have a garage or other limited parking area, will a van easily fit? Will you be able to get SUV doors open easily?

    Post # 10
    8615 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    mrsnnn3 :  not to go off topic but I hate my impreza – I wouldn’t recommend it. I’m just too cheap to replace it lol. Feel free to PM if you want my full “I hate subaru” rant hahaha

    Post # 12
    6432 posts
    Bee Keeper

    weimaranermom25 :  Nice on the engine!  I really don’t look back and regret it.  But that’s me, and I’m coming from the stigma of “eww van life” but it has made life much easier in terms of car pooling and getting around with the billions of things kids need in their lives.  Granted if I had no children, van life wouldn’t do it for me.

    Post # 13
    6855 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    weimaranermom25 :  We got a minivan when our son was born and IT IS AMAZING!!! I’ve never ever been one to care about how my car looks but I actually think my minivan looks quite nice. 

    We were originally planning on a getting a 3-row SUV but after looking at them and then seeing a minivan…there was no comparison. The amount of space was ridiculous. Plus the gas mileage. The sliding doors. The stow-and-go seats. The price! I mean the benefits MASSIVELY outweigh the negatives. And honestly, the only negatives were that it didn’t look as cool as the SUV. So what? I’m a mom now. That cool ship sailed long ago. 

    Post # 14
    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME

    Literally every person I’ve met with a van says they love it and would never go back! Including my 75 year old grandpa.  Why does the “stigma” bother you? It’s just a car, it’s a purchase you make for functionality and to serve a purpose. If people are judging you because of what works best to transport your family around, you shouldn’t be concerned with them to begin with.

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