(Closed) moms – what do you wish you had done before having children?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Great post, I’m eager to see the responses.

Post # 4
1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@beekiss: me too!!

Post # 5
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Me three!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

This probably doesn’t apply to you, but I wish I had finished college.


And traveled the world.

Post # 7
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

pish. I wish i wouldve been married lol! But you probably have that taken care of:) I wish i had started eating organic and had started working out so that i could keep active throughout my pregnancy. I’m glad i took a lot of child development classes throughout my pregnancy. Helped SO much!

Post # 8
3587 posts
Sugar bee

Nothing lifewise, I had her at 30. I made sure to do it all before kids.

no, wait. Wish I had lost more weight before getting pregnant. I’ve lost the baby weight, so now I need to lose the original weight.lol

Post # 9
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

Budoir photos.  I thought “Oh I’ll just get them done after” but my body will never be the same.  ๐Ÿ™

But I did manage to reach my ideal weight and run a marathon before having a baby, which were goals for me.

Post # 10
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m not a mum yet but I am in the TTC process now.  I’ll answer based on our decision to start the TTC process now.

I don’t really have anything I wish I had done before getting to this point but I will tell you what I am very, very glad I did do before TTC.

1.  Obtained my master’s degree

2.  Lived overseas for four years and travelled the world over

3.  Experienced a number of adventure holidays that I can’t ever see doing with kids – once I have kids, I don’t see myself sleeping on dodgy overnight trains in China, camping in Africa, or doing multi-day hilltribe treks through remote regions of SE Asia.

4.  Applied for a position with an extremely selective not-for-profit teaching organisation and spent two years teaching disadvantaged children.

5.  Had the time to grow as an individual and make sure I really am ready to bring a baby into this world.

There are still loads more things I’d like to do but I’m happy to do them with my husband and future children someday.  

Post # 11
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I absolutely love your pre-parenting posts. You’re going to be a great mom!

What do you wish you knew before getting pregnant/having kids?

I read parenting books constantly when I was pregnant but nothing really prepared me for parenting. I was NEVER around newborns so if I could have had more experience with babies, I think that could have been beneficial. Other than that, there was nothing huge. I learned most of my parenting skills from my mom or just nature taking it’s course.

I wish I knew more about post-partum and how common it is. I wish I knew how I could have had it treated instead of ignoring it. Luckily, I don’t think it effected my son. I was still upbeat and happy around him.

What do you wish you had done before hand, or done differently?

I wish I had traveled more with Darling Husband, just us alone before the pregnancy. I wish I would have been more calm while I was pregnant…I probably would have gotten more massages, pedicures and worked less!

As far as after my son was born, I wouldn’t have gone back to work so soon. I would have soaked up every moment because I didn’t realize that he was growing every single day. I mean, I knew this but I didn’t know how fast time would go. It’s weird because a year goes by and I’m not really that different but a year goes by in my childs life and EVERYTHING changes!

Post # 12
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m curious.. did anyone pay off a good chunk or all of their student loan debt before TTC?

Post # 13
457 posts
Helper bee

Darling Husband and I wish we had met sooner when we were younger so we could have more time to experience things together. We have been maried a year, and dated for a 8 months prior to getting engaged, so total almost 3 years together, we have experienced so much together already which is great, but we wish we found each other sooner ๐Ÿ™‚

We are both in our 30’s and didn’t want to be too old and I have a family history of pregnancy problems so we knew we wanted to give ourselves some time to try naturally. Lucky for us we weren’t EVEN trying and it happened. 

We are super excited, and we still do plan do continue our active lifestyle just now with 3 instead of 2 . 

Post # 14
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

The only thing I’d say is, I wish I’d paid off more debt. It was really rough bringing a baby into the equation with debt.

Other than that, life is exactly as it should be. If I want to travel the world, I can do it with my amazing husband and daughter. If I want to lose weight, I can do that too. I can read books, go to school, anything I want to still do I will find a way to do it.I have been lucky enough to stay home with Dirty Delete, so I don’t regret that one bit.

My grandmother raised 5 children and managed to travel the world after she retired! 

Post # 15
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The one big thing my husband and I wanted to do before having kids was backpack through Europe. And we did that for 3.5 weeks for our honeymoon. Ideally we would like to have our baby in our forever home, but it was not a must. Anddd it just kinda worked out that we are in the process of closing on our forever home so we will be bringing baby home to our forever home!

One thing that our backpacking trip to Europe taught us. You can take crazy international trips with kids! On one of our long train rides a Danish family with a young baby and 3 yr old toddler sat across from us. They traveled light and minimal. Why not? We’re not all about the glitzy 4-5 star hotel travel type anyway. So why does traveling with kids have to be like that? We’re actually thinking about going back to Cinque Terre for our 5 year anniversary and bringing our then 3yr old plus maybe another child with us?


We did not. We preferred to have more money put aside for a rainy day, we felt even more necessary with a baby than ever. But then we also have minimal student loans/debts.


Totally on traveling in later years! While backpacking we saw senior citizens with backpacking hanging with the rest of us “youngin’s”!! It was so awesome! I hope when my husband and I are there age we have the ambition and energy to backpack!!

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