(Closed) Moms who breastfeed in public

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not self-conscious about the act itself.

I am always a little worried I’ll accidently flash a boob. I’ve only Boyfriend or Best Friend in public a handful of times so far, I’m a bit uncoordinated trying to get my clothes situated and get baby latched on while staying concealed by my nursing cover.

I’m definitly on my “first kid” (funny commercial) – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZgmbJso-2-o

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I haven’t had my baby yet (due in May) but I’ve often wondered this as well.  I’m actually nervous about feeding in front of anyone.  I feel like when i’ve seen it before, even with family members that it’s a complete conversation stopper lol.  Like when my SIL started breast feeding it was like even though we’re not a self-conscious family it was like we all did whatever we could to find something else to do or avoid eye contact just to give her some privacy. 

 

I think at first I’ll go into another room to do it.  I’m also concerned about people teasing me, my mom especially.  you know, “oh my god, we’ve all done it there’s nothing to be embarrassed about.” or “it’s not like I haven’t seen them before, what are you so worried about?!” ummm….that. that right there, what you just did.  That’s what I’m worried about 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I used to be really self conscious and would scurry to the toilet or my car. Now I’m starting to just not care at all. My daughter will barely tolerate a cover, though I still use one. Pumping is a pain in the ass and takes up the whole day. She won’t take a bottle. And she needs to eat. So people can choose to not stare and get over it. I don’t make a production out of it, I discreetly turn away or excuse myself, but I’m not hiding in the bathroom anymore.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wasn’t too self conscious, I did use the covers & it worked out perfectly. Don’t get me wrong, I would feel overly awkward if my boobs were out in the open. I breastfed my daughter for 18 months and it worked out wonderful! A lot of people especially at work tease me about how long I did it for, but it was the best bonding experience I’ve ever had and probably the best thing I could ever give my daughter besides LOVE. 

Good luck to you! 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Personally I think breastfeeding is fine if you cover yourself up. I was in the mall the other day andvthis woman was literally breast feeding her baby right at the fountain in the middle ofvthe mall with boobs out and all. A younger boy was sitting near with his mommy and couldn’t help but stare at the woman who was breastfeeding and yelled out Mommy her booby are out. This boy couldnt be olderthan maybe 7. The lady who was feeding screamed very loudly and started cursing that the mother of the little boy should teach her some some f*cking manners. The mom of the little boy basically screamed back well then cover up..people cantbhelp but stare if you’re exposed for the entire mall to see. In places like that if you need to breastfeeding you should most definitely cover up.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@roxy yes I know..people do stare if your covered as well but at least in my experience…it made me feel better being covered up so let them stare qt the blanket and not my boobs lol

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@roxy821:  haha mine are Italian too!  Although that’s not the side I was worried about.  My mom has always just been a foot-in-mouth syndrome kind of lady and it annoys the every loving crap outta me!  Case in point:  My mom was a seamstress and used to make all my skating dresses for me.  So she wants me to try on a dress when I was about 15 and just going through puberty, so I was of course, embarrassed.  So all I did was turn slightly while I pulled the dress up and it was like her feelings were hurt!  She says in the most obnoxious voice ever, “OOH MA GAAAWD FOR GOD’S SAKE DONT YOU DARE SHOW YOUR OWN MOTHER YOUR BOOBS FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!?”  that ended all comfort around my mom going forward, I’ve honestly never forgotten it!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

also, a funny/embarrassing experience I had once with someone else breastfeeding.

 

I had just started a new job, it was my very first day and this company was known for it’s party spirit.  We were celebrating 3 seperate baby showers for some employees at work and I was sitting in my bosses office (who other than my interview I had JUST met that day) with about 8 other women and men.  I notice this little girl couldn’t have been older than 18 months with my boss and she proceeds to whip her boob out, without a cover and breast feed her child and just keeps carrying on her conversation.  I didn’t know what to do, I was literally sitting right in front of her trying desperately not to make eye contact with her!  I honestly think that in addition to feeding her child it was like a test to see if the new girl was gonna freak out or fit in.  I just smiled and kept talking to the people next to me….

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Here’s a Too Much Information question…does breastfeeding really change the shape of your boobs?  Like the nipples?  

Really meaning…does it?  And does it a lot?

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Before I had my son, I was really nervous about this. I actually considered exclusively pumping & bottle feeding. However, once he was born, I honestly couldn’t give a crap. I kind of feel like blankets/covers tend to attract attention to the act, as does taking off one’s entire shirt (which people seem to always equate with people not using a cover, I have NEVER seen this in my life!). I just wore a low cut undershirt & a stretchy shirt on top. I would pull the bottom down just under the nip, the top just over, and latch on quickly (facing away from public to latch, or covering for a few seconds to do so)…no problem. Baby’s head covers the nip…people show more cleavage at the beach. I always had people coming up to me mid-feed, asking to see or hold baby. No one even knew I was nursing 99% of the time. 

Seriously, wait and see how you feel about it after you have the baby, you might be surprised how much modesty you lose giving birth 😉 (jk-kinda). I’m sure you’ll figure out what you’re comfortable with & make it work very quickly. Good luck!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@peachacid:  I was under the impression that pregnancy itself changes your breasts/nipples- not necessarily BFing. Having never bottle fed a baby, I really can’t say. My breasts are definitely bigger, though slightly less perky (this could easily be due to age or size change, though). I would say the change is noticeable, but not extreme. (And I hope I was answering a serious question, if you were kidding about something, I’m dopey & totally missed it! :P)

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Snugglebee:  I totally agree. I know moms that will not cover up while nursing just to get a rise out of people… Things should be done decently and in order IMO

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