(Closed) Mom/Sister Dress Drama: Sis bought her dress without our mom and she flipped!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

i understand how your mom feels because its a great experience, i just ordered my dress and i wouldn’t go without my mom or i would wait and come back. but your sister fell in love with a dress so she can’t help the fact she ordered it. maybe what your sister can do is when she goes for a fitting, have your mom go with her, i understand she can’t get the moment back but maybe that can ease her hurt. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Dear god people go so bent about things that aren’t worth it. It’s not like she missed the wedding. Your Mom will just have to move on and look forward to something else. Your ideas to placate her are good, and talk up the next things. Mom needs to let this go.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My mom would’ve been upset too and trust me- my mom is not a very sentimental person.

Post # 6
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What a shame your mother feels that way! That is really hard, and what stress on your sister. Maybe your mom doesn’t realize that she did in fact already see the dress your sister ordered? Did I read that right, that your sister ended up getting the dress that she had tried on when your mother was there? The truth is that everyone won’t be present for every special moment/choice for the wedding.  Hopefully your mother can understand that there will be so many more special moments to come that she can join in on! And your sister hasn’t chosen the veil and necklace and technically the dress isn’t ready yet and will look different after alternations. Good Luck!  

Post # 7
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I tried dresses on with my mom and picked one. ANd then I went home and bought used from a bride on my own. Once I got it though, I had my mom come over to see the dress and try it on for the first time. Maybe once it comes in your mom can go with for fittings and that will make her more involved.

It really is a shame that she got so bent out of shape, especially since she was there when your sister originally tried it on.

Post # 8
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am lucky it never occurred to my mom that she might want to go.  Lol.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Remind your mother that she was there when your sister “found” the dress and that nothing was done to her on purpose. Remind her that the wedding planning is FILLED with moments that she will share with your sister, and that the most important moments are at the wedding itself. Then let her help pick veils and shoes so she chills even though I personally think she should have kept her hurt to herself rather than putting that on you 2.

Post # 10
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow, LLike a pp said, did your mom realize your sister bought the dress your mom already saw? It’s not like your mom was even buying the dress…hopefully she’ll get over it soon. Makes sure she is involved in the first fitting. I guess your sister should also find out where else your mom wants to participate!

Post # 13
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386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I don’t understand what her problem is, she saw the dress. She was there for the first “special” time it was tried on. She just wasn’t there when it was ordered, who cares about being there for the ordering?!? Someone needs to tell her to stop acting like a baby, this wedding isn’t about her. Sounds harsh I know but I have a similar mom and I had to tell her to knock it off and grow up.

Post # 14
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7736 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@breadandbutterflies:  +1. You and your sister have done nothing wrong. Your mom is being very silly about this and I hope she snaps out of it. Hugs to you and your sister.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh geez! It’s not a big deal! She SAW the dress in person! Talk about being dramatic… *Hopefully* she’ll end this tantrum soon and stop the melodramatics! 

What’s your dad’s reaction to all this? Maybe he can talk to her?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I went and tried on dresses by myself and bought it by myself simply because of the logistics (Mom (and actually my entire family/friends) live very far away… I tried to wait for her to get here in 2 weeks but my dress HAD to be ordered by end of August otherwise it wouldn’t have gotten here in time.. So I bought it by myself!) I took pictures and sent to her and she liked it but I wanted her to be there when I bought it..Oh well. She was okay that she wasn’t; she understands.

You’re right..not everything is like it is on TV. Sometimes real life just comes first.

I’ve come to the conclusion that my mom AND my fiance get to see me in my dress for the first time on my wedding day which will surely make her cry! 🙂 It’ll make the wedding day more special In My Humble Opinion.

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