(Closed) Moms/Wives: simple question, does your husband sleep more than you?

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 16
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Sunshine09 :  I nursed my kids so my husband at the time definitely slept more. I could have had my husband give the baby a bottle but I wanted to keep my milk supply up. 

Post # 17
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

He totally sleeps more than I do. I’m not happy about it, but he just can’t handle sleep deprivation. I’m just miserable if I don’t sleep enough. He totally can’t function if he doesn’t.

amb1030 :  I’ve got a kid like that. Also 16 months. It’s so hard!!!

Post # 18
9823 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

When my Dear Daughter was a baby he definitely got more sleep.  I exclusively breastfed and there was no point to offer bottles at night (because I’d have to get up to pump anyway) so I got up more.  After the first year we probably got the same amount of sleep, or I got less by maybe 30min.  I’ve probably gotten more the past 9 months since I’m pregnant and sometimes go to bed 1 or 2 hours earlier than I used to while he is up later.  I do wake up 2-3x a night but usually only for 5 minutes as I’m a light sleeper so I will hear if my Dear Daughter makes any noise or if the cat decides to be an asshole (husband usually sleeps through).  I’m due with #2 next week so the next 6mo-1yr I will probably get less sleep.

Post # 19
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

When I was struggling to get breastfeeding established (which was for the first 2 months or so), my husband woke up for night feedings because he did the bottle feeding while I pumped. Also, the kid was in a bassinet next to my side of the bed, so it wasn’t really an option for one of us to sleep while the other fed the baby. 

When we moved him to his nursery and he got better at nursing, my husband definitely slept better than I did. We both work, so I made a deal with my husband that on weekends, after I nursed the kid first thing in the morning, I would go back to sleep for an hour or so while he took a shift. 

The kid has been sleeping through the night for a while now. I have not renegotiated those terms. So technically right now I get more sleep, but I view it as back payment 😉 

When the kid is sick or otherwise struggling to sleep (rare, but happens with teething etc), we split the nighttime work. Our system works great for us.

Post # 20
2156 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We get about the same amount of sleep. I breastfeed but my husband suffers from insomnia sometimes, so it evens out. I’m very good at breastfeeding while semi-asleep and drifting right back off to sleep when the baby goes back to sleep. Also I always woke up several times per night to pee even when I didn’t have a baby, so being woken up a couple times a night isn’t really a problem for me. I was extremely tired when my son was younger (especially the first 6 weeks cos I was really struggling with breastfeeding) but Darling Husband was very helpful.

Post # 21
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Yes! Our baby is 7 months old and breastfed – when she wakes at night she has a quick feed and back to sleep for me. She has no interest in a bottle and will get really worked up and cry hard if her Dad goes in so it seems easier this way!

Post # 22
6458 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Yes. I breastfed so I was up more. I was also a pretty anxious new mother and we had our son in a co sleeper in the bed with us (thinking it would make it easier to reach him for nursing) so every time my partner turned over I woke up to make sure the baby was okay. (I wouldn’t do that again.)

I also have a hard time powering down at night while he could happily fall asleep during a party!

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