(Closed) Momzilla

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

LOL. My mom was somewhat like this – she isn’t paying for my wedding, she simply can’t afford it, and that’s fine.. I’ve always known that.

But.. she said she would “pick up things as she got the money”.

Great! I thought she’d get some bottles of wine or those neon colored plastic martini glasses.

NOPE.

She got these REALLY CHEAP plastic tableclothes… paper plates.. and paper cups.

Erm. Not exactly what I was imagining.

Sadly, I had to have a talk with her about what EXACTLY I wanted, and that she was wasting her money in buying those things because there is NO way I’m going to be using them for my wedding. So.. I’m getting the silk everything [tablecloths, chair covers, ect] I want.. and the stuff she already bought will be used for our VERY casual rehearsal dinner [it wasnt going to be casual.. but now it is.. lol]. And the rest of what’s of the plates/cups/forks will be put into the Out of Town baskets [along with 2 liters of pop, and things to cook on the plates for snacks].

Sometimes you just have to let them know EXACTLY how you want things.. and you aren’t going to have it any other way.

However, if your mother is paying a good portion of your wedding, you might have to find a common ground and go with that…. she WOULD have a say in some things if she was paying for it.

Post # 5
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If it’s this bad already, I would probably elope – you can still use your dress!

How are you responding when your mother says these things to you? It sounds like you need to be firm with her. That means no “thanks, I’ll think about it.” or “that’s interesting.” Don’t waiver at all. 

Mom:  BLACK IS DISGUSTING BLEH YOU NEED TO PICK SPRING COLORS!

Me: I’ve already decided on the colors. They are pink and black.

Mom: But you can change them.

Me: They are set. They will be pink and black.

Mom: That’s gross. 

Me: They won’t change. They are pink and black.


Post # 6
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

My mother had a backyard wedding.. [she was 20 years old, and worked at dunkin donuts.., they lived in chicago so on her and her husbands salary, couldn’t afford a fancy wedding]. I think she just assumed I would be doing something like that. Sure, I’m not going to go crazy, but it’s going to be the most magical night of my life.. I’m not going to use plastic freaking tablecloths!

She finally got the hint, and she has agreed to talk to me prior to purchasing anything.. however I gave her a list of wines/alcohols that are safe to buy, as well as favors/decorations/lighting. She will also pay for the dj.

Post # 8
Hostess
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@lizzimi:  Ah, we are in very similiar situations then.

I totally agree, – not spending a fortune, but making it look the best you can. I’m totally with you on that one.

 

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