(Closed) MOMZILLA UPDATE***

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

aww noes. *hugs* sorry your upset. Its a tough situation money things and peoples attitudes.

Post # 4
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1602 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

aww i’m sorry to hear that. i hope things turn out for the better in the long run…

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

Hi Vanilla Frosting,

You do have quite a while till your wedding-hopefully things will cool off soon, and everyone will be able to move beyond this, and move ahead with your planning.  I am thinking of you, and wishing you well.  Rhonda -PM me if/when you want. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Aw,

I know how you feel.  My family tries to strong arm me with money too.  I have a difficult family, it makes it so much harder, doesn’t it?  Isn’t life enough stress?

😉

Post # 8
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1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am so sorry to hear that.  Look at the bright side…at least you will not be obliged to invite the people on that huge list of guests that your parents gave you… 

Post # 9
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mom promised money, didn’t have it when she said she would- and then insulted ME when I asked her about it at that time…(?)  Unfortunatley, that is her personality- if I ask her about something she was wrong about- and it can be HER thinking it was wrong- if I just happen to ask about it- she will attack me. 

My Dad said he wouldn’t even come to my wedding if I did it where I wanted… I am hoping he gets over it…

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Awwww sorry to hear about that, hopefully they will come around soon and see that its your big day not theirs.  This is why me and Fiance are happy we are paying for our wedding ourselves, that way we dont have to hear it from anybody.  Last night we had a talk about our expenses and both agreed that this whole wedding budget plan we have has taught us alot for our future, we use to be so bad with saving

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I think that if you were relying on your parents’ money for your wedding then they DO have a say (larger than yours, for that matter) in the purchases and decisions made for the wedding. Sorry to say, but I think you’re being selfish–not your parents–for expecting their money and expecting complete freedom with their money.

Can you compromise with them? If having their money is important to you, you may be willing to have to make some sacrifices.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

“weddings are supposed to bring happiness and joy to families, not pain and estrangement.”

Well that was your FIRST mistakeWink 

As other’s have said, you do still have a lot of time for tempers to simmer, and I wouldn’t be surprised if your parents come around and offer to pay for at least a few things.  I’ve always known my mom leans to the selfish side, yet I was still surprised by some of her coments & actions (and Fiance & I have always been the only ones paying for anything!).  Weddings are weird creatures.  Sorry you have to deal with this while still riding the post-engagement high=(

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I don’t think most of us are shaking our heads. You stood your ground and that’s a good thing. I’m glad you got your dream venue and that your parents are coming around. I’ve had to fight quite a bit to keep people from trying to add in flowers everywhere because I don’t want to spend the money on them for a winter wedding. I’d have to say that almost every bride has to fight for some portion of her wedding and that it’s a good thing, especially since in this case you and your Fiance agreed on a specific venue.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Learning to stand your ground is a great thing!  I’m glad things are working better with your parents- they need to realize that you are an adult now and will be making your own decisions from here on out.  Honestly I see a lot of brides who just give in to whatever unreasonable demands their parents make, it makes me wonder what will happen to them in the future.  When they have kids, will their parents demand the right to name them as well?

Good job.  I’m glad you got your venue, and hopefully your parents will take some time and come around.

Post # 16
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Young lady(s)

You have a lot more power than what you think you have.  Bad feelings can preclude visits from grandkids.  Don’t think they are not aware of this.  Still, it’s good to stay on friendly terms-  always…  They have gifts for you of which you are not even aware:-)

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