Post # 1
We are planning a small (less than 30) wedding to be on Labor Day Monday but I’m hesitant to set anything in stone because of it being a weekday. I’m sure our loved ones would make an exception if they did have to take time off of work but I wanted to see what y’all thought about this. Has anyone had this problem? Also, is there any way to do a reception after or has anyone done a dinner the night before and made a weekend of it? And just have cake and drinks after? We aren’t planning on doing much dancing seeing as it’s a small group of people and we aren’t really into it.
Id also like the say that we are set on this date because it is our original anniversary.
This topic was modified 3 years, 1 month ago by npevans18.
Post # 2
I’m having a mid-week wedding, except mine is on a Wednesday! I heard lots of comments about how I shouldn’t expect everyone to come but I think it depends on your circumstances. Even though we have 100 guests invited it is just our immediate families and close friends, so I think they’re willing to accommodate a difficult date to be there for us. The Friday after the wedding is Good Friday so I we talked it over with them and we know they’re off work that day AND schools are closed, so they encouraged us to go for it because then try can take the Wednesday and Thursday off and have a five day weekend. Yes, it’s unusual but it works for us.
I think a Monday will be fine, it gives your guests a long weekend. They just might not drink as much as usual if they are working on the Tuesday, or they may just take the two days off like our guests.
Post # 3
One of the main concerns would be that since it’s a holiday, some people might have other plans and not be able to make it. But, with a small amount of close guests it may not be a huge issue. If you do it in the evening, local people could potentially still go to work and make the wedding or work a half day and head out early. You could still have a short reception with dinner (or drinks & heavy appetizers) after the ceremony, just wrap up at a reasonable hour since some will have to work early Tuesday.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2015 - Dreams Las Mareas - Costa Rica
Send out your save the dates early… it will be fine. Its smal so its only people that really care about you both… you dont have to worry about the nitpicky people cause they wont be there…lol
People plan to be at BBQ’s on labor day so im sure they can plan to be at a wedding… I wouldnt miind it at all… I would actually prefer it rather than being at another same o same o BBQ
It would be nice if it started and ended early… like 3-7
What hours are you thinking about ?
Post # 5
Even if we were very close, I would probably not be able to take the day off, so I’d have to miss. Are you okay with accepting a declined RSVP without getting upset?
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
It depends on how far people have to travel. If it means taking Tuesday off, you may run into problems.
Post # 7
Horseradish: its a holiday most people dont have to take it off of work duh read if u want to reply
Post # 8
I’m getting married on a Thursday. I sent STDs a year in advance so people could plan. It’s in a big destination wedding spot – coastal North Carolina, in May, so I’m hoping people will consider a long weekend/mini-vacation. It’s a small wedding, only 50 people. We sent the date to OOT guests and that equaled 50- yikes.
Post # 9
If you aren’t going to take regrets personally, it shouldn’t be a problem. Around here kids go back to school on the Tuesday after Labor Day. I would say the earlier in the day, the better.
Post # 10
Our original anniversary falls on a Monday as well. That Monday is Memorial Day of 2015. We discussed having our wedding that day with our families, and they were quite opposed to it. So we chose to have our wedding the day before, on Sunday. You still get a discount over Saturday rates, and the icing on the cake is that most people will have the next day off from work!
Look at it this way, you can spend your original anniversary away in paradise on your honeymoon! 🙂 Good luck.
Post # 11
Nena16: don’t assume that everyone gets a holiday Monday off. DUH. The world is not on your timetable. Think a little before getting all snarky and rude.
Post # 12
npevans18: I think your wedding will be fine, especially because it’s so small and intimate.
I went to a wedding on Dec. 21… it was a Wednesday and obviously close to X-mas, there were 65 people and we had a blast! People who should be there will be there. It’s nice to have your anniversary as the date. 🙂
If everyone is close I think that dinner the night before then a more low-key wedding day would be lots of fun! The only concern I see with that is if you drink. I don’t know about you but sometimes after I drink I’m a little puffy the next day haha. Otherwise, a nice dinner after the ceremony on the Monday would also work!
Post # 13
Since it is such a small wedding, it might be fine. Just keep in mind that if people are traveling to get to your wedding, they may hit more traffic than usual/have much higher airfare/higher hotel rates since it is a popular vacation time.
The food issue depends on the time of day. I would prefer to have a late morning/afternoon thing since people might need to travel and may have to work the following day. Some bees have had really lovely brunch weddings. That could be low cost, last just a few hours, and still leave plenty of time for guests to either travel or still attend a BBQ.
Post # 14
npevans18: Many of my friends teach at private colleges that do not observe Labor Day (and they are just a few among the many who get to “observe” Labor Day by working in this country) and take a particularly dim view of people who try to get out of their obligations on that day. A sibling’s wedding would possibly be one thing, but a friend? Hell no–people would talk! Also, do you have any Must Be There Guests who have long-standing Labor Day weekend traditions? Labor Day weekend celebrations are still a big thing in some parts of the USA. Again, as others have said, if you’re willing to genuinely and kindly–none of this “if they really loved me, they’d come” stuff–accept declines from people, perhaps even people who are close to you, then you can consider this date.
Post # 15
npevans18: agree with PP that not everyone gets the day off. ( With the attacks on unions, eventually no one wil automatically get a holiday off in U.S.) I work for myself and I work all kinds of holidays.
Agree with the earlier PP who pointed out that Sunday would be great cuz the guests who do have the day off wouldn’t feel rushed, but even those who have to work could come to an afternoon ceremony.