Post # 1
So I know weekday weddings are very unpopular with a full-time working crowd, but our families are mostly retired folks. We’re doing a weekday wedding because: we’re getting married in Santa Barbara, CA (6 hour drive from me) and there will be less people on the beach, and we’re paying for it – it’s a whole lot cheaper. Our ceremony will start at 11am with a lunch reception ending around 4.
Here’s the breakdown of our guestlist:
- My mom and stepdad: can easily take off work (they have over 1500 vacation hours and are supervisors..not a problem)
- Dad and stepmom: my dad is on call, but he could take off & stepmom sets her own hours
- My aunt doesn’t work
- My Goddad and his wife – they work and they probably couldn’t afford to come regardless of the day (and I don’t want him to come anyway..he and my mom have been assholes this entire time)
- My grandpa and his wife – rich and retired
- FH’s mom: works, but she plans on taking time off anway
- FH’s big brother: in law school, so his schedule is crazy (they’re not close though)
- FH’s big sister and her husband: they live in Chicago, so I don’t know if they could come anway (they’re not close either)
- FH’s little sister: not in school and works at Bebe and Hooter’s..she could probably come
- FH’s little brother: will be on Spring or Summer break, depending on the day
- FH’s grandma and aunt: retired and doesn’t work due to disability (respectively)
That’s the guestlist breakdown. Here’s the other thing, we’re looking at two dates:
- Monday, June 4: Santa Barbara is very gloomy/foggy during the day, so our beach ceremony wouldn’t be very sunny. The upside is that most of us should be out of school by then.
- Wednesday, April 4: SB is gorgeous with no fog during the day. Me, FH, Future Brother-In-Law, and Future Mother-In-Law will be on Spring Break from school, so there wouldn’t be school committments that week.
FH doesn’t really care who is there (he just wants to be married lol), so he kinda left it up to me.
Which date should we do? Our budget is about $5k so that is the biggest factor in this situation!
Post # 3
Is the beach you’re planning on having the ceremony at a popular place? I ask because if you get married during spring break, I would think the beach would be crowded anyway, even if it is a Wednesday.
ETA: Of course, summer break would probably be the same issue. I would still think a Monday would be easier with people who work.
Post # 4
@futureMrsCPT: Not really, it’s one of the smaller beaches. And UC Santa Barbara is on a quarter system, not semesters. I looked at the calendar and they’ll be starting school that week.
ETA: UCSB will still be in school on June 4 too. Their spring quarter won’t end until June 8th.
Post # 5
well, if you had to pick between what day the weather is going to be nicer, I’d say go for the Wednesday wedding then, especially if the school break stuff isn’t going to be an issue. Good luck 🙂
Post # 6
you can actually tell the weather with that much certainty?
Post # 7
@red_rose: Yeah the wedding planner lives there and she said they have this saying “June gloom”. The fog in June is pretty consistent with the climate.
Post # 8
I said April 6. The next day is Good Friday so some people may have/take off. (it would effectively be like having a Friday wedding). I also said it because you may have people taking off for the Easter holiday already that will take off an extra day for the wedding if they get advanced notice.
Post # 9
How many people that you are inviting do work?
If there is a population that is working, I would say Monday – but have you looked at rates for a Sunday? Sundays are usually always cheaper then Fri/Sats & would be much easier for your working friends/family.
Post # 11
You do what you want! =) I support you!
I would go with the Monday wedding so I as a guest could have a nice 3 day weekend! =)
Having lived by the beach my entire life, you can count on fog majority of the AMs.
Post # 12
@AnnieAAA: about 10 out of 20-25. A few are in school and out of state, so no matter what date we choose, they might not be able to come anyway.
This just in..April may conflict with FMIL’s birthday trip to Hawaii in March, which is 10% planned. So we have no idea when we will get married now..ugh.
Post # 13
Like CupCakeMeg said, I’d go with a Monday wedding in the interest of it being attached to a weekend. If it’s possible for you to swing a weekend wedding, though, I’d go for it.
Post # 14
It’s not very likely that we’ll be able to pay for a weekend wedding. Hotels in SB are not cheap at all, and the restaurant will add on a $500 room fee to our bill if we do it on a weekend. We’re paying for this whole shindig ourselves and his family might need some help with getting down there, so that adds to our bill. On top of that, we won’t have a quiet place on the beach to have the ceremony..the beaches are popular on the weekends.
Post # 15
I voted April! Its the “off season” so hopefully you could get better rates in general.
Post # 16
@misssydneyj: Another weekday bride! My wedding is an intimate beach wedding as well (35 guest), 5-6 hours away and on a Thursday. I voted for April 4th. It seems like a nicer day for a wedding and the important people in your life will most likely be able to make it. So far for me only 4 guests can’t make it but it’s more because of having to travel and not the day.