Post # 17
Update: So I talked to FH and all he keeps saying is “F it” and we should do what we want. That sounds good and all, but since he’s the “man” on his mom’s side, I know that we are going to catch hell for anything that could inconvenience people. His grandma already asked why aren’t we getting married in our hometown and she told me that she and his aunt would rather fly down so they don’t have to make a 6 hour drive.
That was all good until I looked at flights today, and the flights are 6 hours at $400. So it won’t make a difference if they fly or drive. His aunt is disabled due to a back injury and his grandma told me that she won’t be able to go if she has to sit for a long period of time. Now I’m even more frustrated because when he tells them about the flight time vs the drive time, I have a feeling that they will say they can’t go unless we have it in our hometown. His response? “F it.” That’s all he keeps saying!!! I told him to ask them about it, and he said he’s sure they will come – even though his grandma told me something different.
I just have a feeling that this whole wedding is going to blow up in our faces for “inconveniencing” everyone..ugh…I don’t know what to do anymore. FH just keeps laughing about it and it’s starting to piss me off.
Post # 18
The wedding has to be about you two. It’s your wedding day; your special day that you’ll remember for all your life. Some people might not be happy with the way you do it but the most important thing is that you’re happy, that years from now you can think back on it, look at pictures and still smile about it. Your fiancés right in that the only important people that absolutely need to be there are the two of you to make it a perfect day.
His grandma might threaten but if he thinks she’ll be there she probably will. My grandma threated to not go because we were leaving the cat alone but I know she’ll go anyway she just says that to get her way. Even if she doesn’t, your fiancé doesn’t seem too upset over it.
Post # 19
Can you have a small weekday ceremony reception on your day at your choice of venue and then an at-home (literally at-home) dinner or bbq a bit later?
Post # 20
True, so I will just let it go. I just have a feeling that there will be some drama as the day gets closer. Everyone has the “It’s so far away, it’s not a big deal” attitude right now, but as time goes on, they will bitch and complain about it. My problem with that is FH might cave to their demands. He says he won’t, but we will wait and see..
Yup, we’re planning on having a bbq for friends/family when we get back.
Post # 21
I agree…if you were my friend or relative, I’d gladly take the day off if I had enough notice. My cousin got married on a thursday and had a fantastic turnout. I like monday because people could just extend their weekend…but wednesday is good too because I’d prolly just take the rest of the week off. A wedding is a great excuse to slack off at work. =)
Post # 22
***Update!: We will go with Monday, April 2 or Monday, June 4. I just found out that we are on Spring Break that week of April, so it may work out better for us anyway. We went over our budget, and we won’t be able to do a weekend wedding – it’s just too expensive. Thanks for all the help!
Post # 23
YAY! I love the feeling of making decisions! Congrats!