Post # 1
We just got engaged and have picked a wedding date: August 21, 2017. There is a partial solar eclipse that day and we both love the idea of having something so fantastic as the backdrop to our wedding. Plus it has the added bonus of being sandwiched between our birthdays (8/20 and 8/22)
However, I am nervous about having a wedding on a weekday. The ceremony and reception would be during the early afternoon to fully experience the eclipse during the event. But I have heard of people having low turnout for weekday weddings 🙁
What are your thoughts?
P.S. 95% of guests are local
Post # 2
I think with a weekday wedding you certainly run the risk of having a lower turnout that if held on a weekend. Honestly, there are some people I would take the day off work for and some I wouldn’t. I’m sure those that are closest to you will try their hardest to come regardless of the day.
Post # 3
I would think it was odd but I guess I would just take the day off.
I personally would make it on the saturday and not worry about the moon, what time will the eclipse be anyway?
Post # 4
You will definitely have a much lower turnout. Many people only have so many personal days, and would only take it off if you are very close to them. If you want a more intimate wedding, it should be fine.
Post # 5
To be honest, I would only attend a Monday wedding if it were close family or friends and local. You could sacrifice some of the Eclipse and do it in the evening when people are done with work. You could also shift things slightly so the ceremony is during the Eclipse but the reception is after working hours. Also, how many kids are in your party? They would have to miss school. I would personally feel bad about pulling little kids out of school to go to a wedding but others may consider the kid free element a plus. Do you think the eclipse is something your guests would really care about? What happens if it is cloudy or raining and you can’t see the eclipse? You are the hosts so you can do anything you would like. However, if you want your guests to come you will need to take things like travel and work hours into account.
We picked a Sunday and will be getting some declines because of that. I get it, everyone has an opinion. However if missing the eclipse would mean a lot to you, don’t miss it. You (hopefully) won’t be doing this again, so do it right. Also, your guests aren’t going to care or remember the details in a few years, so make sure you get what you want. I am sure the VIPs (immediate family and such) will still come and you will save tons of money.
Post # 6
Also! I just thought of this: you could have the ceremony during the eclipse with close family, and then have a reception the next weekend so that more people could attend.
Post # 7
Defiintley send out a Save The Date once you decide on Monday so people will have a lot of time to plan accordingly. I’m sure those closest to you will make it either way. Maybe send out something invtiing about the symbolic afternoon on your Save the Date notice to get your guests excited about it.
But with all of that said, Monday will means some guests might be too busy and also thinking about having a full work ahead.
It’s your day, so follow your heart’s desire!
Post # 8
I would not attend a Monday wedding. I don’t get a lot of vacation time and I am not going to spend a day for an eclipse.
Something to think about: is it more important to be married because of the eclipse or is it more important to have as many loved ones with you as possible. The eclipse will have no impact on your marriage.
Post # 9
If it’s local I think that’s fine. If people had to take two days off to attend and travel you’d get a low turn out.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t attend a Monday daytime wedding. Even if I lived nearby, it would be a hassle. The only exception would be for my closest friends, and even then, I think I’d try to talk some sense into them. I’m generally of the persuasion that a weekday wedding is rude to your guests. You’re deciding for them that they need to take some of their limited vacation to be there for an event you chose to have at an inconvenient time.
The one exception: your family and friends largely don’t work M-F 9-5 jobs. I saw one Monday evening wedding that worked well, largely because the couple and most of their friends work in the service industry or as freelance designers — Monday meant their friends could work the high paying weekend shifts and party on their day off.
Post # 11
If I was local, and it was a close friend, I’d probably attend. But I do think you’ll have a considerably lower turnout. Especially on a Monday – I think people are far more hesitant about taking Mondays off of work than Fridays.
What about making the eclipse a special moment between the two of you, but having the wedding on a date that might bring more people? Or even getting married during the eclipse, but having the reception on a weekend?
Post # 12
I wouldn’t attend a Monday afternoon wedding unless we were really, really, REALLY close. I only get a limited number of vacation days per year and I have to use them very sparingly. You are going to get a lot of people with the same issue even if they’re local. Can you shift it to the evening when people will be done work?
TBH you can’t deny you’re doing this for selfish reasons (pictures looking good). Which is fine but you have to give up your expectation of anyone going out of their way to accommodate you. If there are certain people you would not want to miss your wedding, you’re going to have to compromise or there is a high chance at least some of those very important people won’t be able to make it.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2016 - Enoch Turner Schoolhouse
I think you should pick a date that’s best for you and your Fiance. If your loved ones and very close friends want to attend, they will find a way. We’re having our wedding on a Thursday because the date is very special to us – and understood that we may have a lower turnout. We kind of wanted an intimate wedding anyway. We have a capacity limit of 150 at the venue, and we hoped for 80 to say yes – right now 132 are coming! We’re very happy and feeling very supported by our loved ones 🙂 At the end of the day, it’s YOUR day. So get married on the day YOU want.
Post # 14
I would not attend unless you were one of my best friends or immediate family members. A Monday afternoon wedding means I’d have to take the whole day off of work. Plus I wouldn’t be in much of a party mood because I’d have work the next day.
Post # 15
i would have to be really close to you to take off a day of work because Mondays are my busiest days at work, as I am sure they are for most people. Some people don’t get a lot of vacation time and may not be willing to spend it on a wedding bc they are normally on a weekend (Friday, Sat or Sun)
I think that you should do what YOU want because its your wedding and the date and solor eclipse are important to you. If people want to be there, they will make it possible to be there for you