(Closed) Monday Wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would never attend a Monday wedding, unless the bride were my sister. In that case, I would also strongly encourage her to change her date. 

Post # 32
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Blushing bee

I think its fine if you won’t be too hurt if people don’t show up. Also, with enough notice I’m sure anyone who really wants to be there would. As long as you’re not expecting to party it up till 3 am – it should be fine. I love (the idea of)  weekday weddings!

Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m having a Monday wedding too! Most of our friends are coming from out of town so they’ll be taking time off anyway. Our family is local though so we chose an evening event starting at 6pm. My Fiance and I moved across the country during our engagement because I got a new job and we were forced to spend a lot of our savings. We simply couldn’t afford a weekend wedding. We made sure to tell our out of town guests as soon as we had our date (about 10 months before the wedding) so they could prepare. Also, since most of friends are teachers we picked a summer date when many of them had time off anyway. Basically, we knew we’d be inconveniencing people, but we tried to meet them halfway as much as possible. As other bees have said, just try your best to make it easy on everyone, but don’t be hurt or surprised if your turnout isn’t as high.

Post # 34
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I treasure my vacation days because I get so few and I want to fit in visiting my family as well as vacations. I would likely only take the day off if I was a close friend (like bridal party close) or if you are a sibling.

ETA: I saw your latest post. I would not think you were rude for hosting it on that day. If you can be understanding if you get a low turnout and you won’t be disappointed if people aren’t able to take off then I think you should go for that day.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Normally I’d be against this but after reading your update about your family’s professions I say go for it! It sounds lovely and unique!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

lets be honest all weddings are a little selfish because its what the bride likes. and thats fine cause its the couples day. That being said I probably wouldn’t go to a Monday weddin unless I was very close to the couple. And if I did go I would probably leave early cause I have to get up so early in the morning.  Have you discussed the idea of a possible Monday wedding with your friends?

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Post # 37
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I feel like it’s a big ask of people – vacation days aren’t easy to come by. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Saint Domingue

witzelwedding:  Hmm, are you and Fiance space fanatics or is this more of a “This would be pretty cool” thing? 

What it all boils down to is it’s your wedding and I suppose you already have your eclipse glasses favors nailed down as well.  🙂 

I would not attend a wedding for which I had to take off work unless you were close family or very close friend.  most people in the U.S. simply don’t get enough time off to spend it on weddings planned during eclipses which had the audacity to happen on a weekday.  😜. 

Also, while this is actually a total eclipse it sounds like you must be unfortunate enough to live where it will be a partial eclipse.  The phenomenon only lasts about two minutes and, during this time, your guests will all need to be wearing special eye protection if you want looking at the eclipse to be part of the ceremony.  Logistically, I can also see awkward standing around waiting for the eclipse, too, if anyone’s timing is off.  (I remember being underwhelmed by partial eclipses.) BUT, that’s not what you asked about and I’d love to get married during a meteor shower in the middle of nowhere if it worked with our lifestyle and that of our guests so I think I get where you’re coming from.

Back to the issue of a Monday wedding: I most definitely think it will affect your rate of those who decline but of course do what works for you and Fiance and keep us all posted.

Most importantly, congrats! 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Yay! I’m also planning a monday wedding, the fact that it would be a more intimate wedding was a bonus to my Fiance and I. If it’s important to you than your loved ones will be understanding i think

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Those who love you enough will take the time off with no complaints. And this is your wedding and is about you, not pleasing others. My wedding is on a Monday and if anyone wants to say that is rude to my guests do not have to come. Personally, my guests have been very supportive. Not all my be thrilled but no one has complained about it and I have had no sense of negativity about it either. Have your wedding on your terms! 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

witzelwedding :  I hope you kept the date significant to both of you and haven’t changed it! Every guest’ schedule isn’t the same so its unfair to assume a weekday wedding is automatically a huge inconvenience for the majority. And no, your choice isn’t at all selfish bc its YOUR wedding. You know your crowd and whether this date would be a problem. Invites are not received at gun point, no one is obligated to accept which is why there’s a decline option included. Most of the people invited to our Tuesday wedding are already aware of the date and fall into three groups. Retired – excited to attend. Not working a typical 9 to 5 – excited to attend. Working a typical 9 to 5 – excited to attend and take off a few hours from jobs they aren’t in love with. Things could change but for now everyones excited and we’re happy with our choice. 🙂 

Post # 42
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m self employeed as a wedding photographer and work from home. I make my own flex schedule…and even for me a Monday would suck. Mondays are super busy for me, because I start my day with an inbox flooded with emails from the weekend and a million tasks to prep for the week and upcoming weekend’s worth of weddings.

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