- 5 years ago
I don’t even know what I want to write.
I just got a call from my SO that his paycheque was garnished $900. He claims to have no idea what it could be from, cause “I got money from my Grandma when she died, went to ABC to do my taxes and told them to pay off any outstanding debts from the inheritance, I don’t think it’s from XYZ cause I was paying that off, I have no idea what it’s from”
Bees, I just about invoked Cthulhu to go yell at SO on my behalf!!!
I was going to leave a few months ago for a number of reasons. No sex. No affection. Messy SOB. Terrible with money. Some other stuff. We actually grew a lot closer after having a very long overdue, much needed conversation about why I wasn’t happy, and also see what improvements could be made by me for our relationship.
We’ve both been making changes where needed, and while there are still things we are working on, I thought that we had hashed out everything to do with finances; well what in the actual f$ck…
I am beyond furious!!!! How can you not know why you’ve been garnished $900, who took it, and how much is actually owed?? I also asked what he meant by I WAS paying XYZ…as far as I knew, this would be multiple payments of $50 which would not have stopped, making I AM paying XYZ a more accurate and truthful statement. I paid an initial $200 to avoid the full amount being deducted from 2 paycheques which would have royally effed up my budget for our monthly bills. I had also asked him to have XYZ send me a record of the $200, as well as a written agreement for #months x $50 = full payment agreement. Come to think of it, that letter never came…hmmmmmm
I feel like he is toying with my trust, that may very well now be broken. I do not expect him to have the same stance on financial matters as I, but he is almost 40 @$$*)@$%^^ years old, doesn’t know when he last filed his taxes, may have lied to me about the “arrangement” made to pay off XYZ with $200 I gave him to help out, he pays at least an additional $100 on his contracted mobile bill each month (which I had already asked him to call his service provider to change the monthly plan as it is clearly not appropriate for his usage), he spends 2 weeks disposable income in days and asks me to send him more money (it is his, but he asked me to control it because otherwise he would spend it all and have no idea how to pay bills)…I am not his mother, nor am I his baby sitter, even if I was his wife, is this normal????
I’m hurt, I feel betrayed, I feel he may have knowingly lied to me, and for what? Why hide debt?? I thought we had already brought up all the skeletons in our closets, but apparently he has a secret stash of debts and/or has lied to me…
What do I do?