(Closed) Money can't buy happiness…

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: How about you - what is more important in a job, money or happiness?

    Money, duh. If work was supposed to fun, it wouldn't be called work.

    Happiness! :D

  • Post # 33
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    How about stability and happiness?  I don’t think being poor would be my #1 choice, and I wouldn’t solely pick money either.

    We are content, not in crazy amount of debt, and are living comfortably and don’t buy lavish things.

    We are emensley happy, and I could see how if we had to live in a smaller apartment how that would put a strain on us since he works from home. 

    I’d say we’re lucky and have a good balance.

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

    I am of the senement of “More Money, More Problems”.

    I am a performing artist. I work in professional Theater and in Education. I do what I love and I can pay rent (in an equal partnership with my FI). I love what I do and know how to live quite happily within my means (whixh I believe is a lesson everyone should learn). We know what we need. It isn’t a lot. We’ve got each other, our cat, a roof over our heads, clothes on our backs, our art and a fully stocked fridge. We’re happy.

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee

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    @MrsPanda99:  I’m quite good at compartmentalising too but more so because of a horrible situation I had to deal with  a few years ago (bereavement) that made me change perspective and say its only work and not allow it to get to me. I’m definitely in the work to live camp,I do the hours then once I’m done I forget about it till the next day 🙂 

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Meh…I left a six figure job to make $ just above the federal poverty line and persue science. Science is a major passion of mine, although grad school is really just an institution for borderline insane masochists. So, am I happy and is it worth the paycut? Yes, generally. Eventually, the money will come and that will be nice, too.

    Post # 37
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Neither–there’s a happy medium between the two. I could make $100k in a shitty job and be miserable, and find a lower paying job with a better enviroment. I don’t love my current job, and the pay sucks, but it’s SO MUCH better than my last job (well, not today…).

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    From a psychological POV, it is hard to enjoy something you’re getting paid for because rather than being rewarded by the enjoyment, you start looking at money as the reward.

    I always liked this saying ‘money can’t buy happiness, but it can buy horses and that’s pretty much the same thing’.

    I do enjoy my work, but only because I work with Fiance and get to choose when I work. I’m takinng a course right now which will enable me to start my own business working with horses. I hope I’ll enjoy it, but personally I work to live, not live to work. I dont think you need to like your job.

    Post # 40
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    Buzzing bee

    I don’t think it is a black or white thing.  Yes, money can buy  you things you enjoy and you can have a job you hate that gives you that money.

    On the other hand, you can have a job you LOVE that doesn’t provide for your needs, for some money in the bank, for a car, for a decent home.

    I don’t want either of those things.

    I just finished a 26 year career and I can tell you that you need to not hate what you do in order to get that nice paycheck.  During your working years the majority of your time is spent at that job.  If you really don’t like what you do, it will catch up to you and manifest itself in things like stress, depression, poor health, maybe looking for escapes from it that aren’t healthy like alcohol or drugs, etc.  Your working years are a long, long time and if you are doing something you hate to get that check it will eventually catch up to you, and not in a good way.

     

    Post # 41
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I had a job where I made great money and when I moved to be with Fiance I took a pay cut as large as some people’s annual salary. I still make a comfortable living but my happiness is so much higher. I LOVE my job. Before, yes, I had Extra money but my career miserable-ness was running over into my personal life and even affecting my health. I never would have said it before- but money isn’t everything.

    Post # 42
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think we all agree:

    Money can’t buy happiness, but it can make you awfully comfortable while you’re being miserable

    or

    Money may not buy happiness but it does let you choose your own misery.

    Both of these kinda say the same thing and they are so true. 

    Post # 44
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I wouldn’t want to completely hate my job, but if it paid me well enough I could put up with it. Luckily I have a pretty darn good balance of that now. 

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wasn’t there an in depth study done that showed that over a certain net income (around $60,000 or so??) people’s happiness didn’t increase if they made more money or something.

    Post # 46
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    Bumble bee

    There was this popular rap song back when I was in high school (or junior high?) with a chorus that went “Money can’t buy me happiness, but I’m happiest when I can buy what I want…”

    I’m in the same situation as 

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    @vorpalette:  where I don’t hate what I do, but the pay can be much better, and it’s a way better situation than my last job so I’m dealing with it.  I don’t want to be complacent though, and I was getting very close.  SO’s been pushing me to move on though, because my skills are underutilized. :/  I need to remind myself to keep reaching for better.

    Me, I’m still grappling with this one.  I grew up in a more materialistic culture, where people are proud to have lots of superficial luxuries (like, more so than the average North American), and I find that as I grow older (and as I get closer to SO, who lives very simply), I’m becoming less shallow.  At my last job, where I was miserable, I thought ‘As long as I don’t want to die when I go to work, that’ll be good enough.  That’s all I ask.’ Now I’m there…and I’m not sure this is all I want.  I think I can do better.

    My interests don’t make money so I find it hard to believe I could find a job I love with all my heart that can support me.  If I could find that job and it’s enough to live on…I may consider it.  But I grew up with zero financial security so that’s really important to me, too. So in the end, with respect to jobs, I will tend to gravitate towards financial security over personal fulfillment – I fulfill myself in my personal life and through my hobbies.

    When it comes to men though, it’s a much easier decision.  I was dating a handsome specialist doctor when I met SO, who was perfect on paper.  Once he finished his fellowship, he could earn $300K as soon as he got a permanent gig at a hospital in Canada, or more if he ever chose to go overseas…but he made me miserable because he had absolutely no time for me and our personalities just clashed like crazy.  

    Then I met SO, who’s an engineer, and promptly broke up with the doctor.  As an electrical engineer, he can make up to $150K in Canada if he works up to managerial level (which unfortunately he doesn’t really want because they reduce benefits after a certain pay threshold, and he’d rather grow his business)…so that’s half the earning potential of the other guy (but realistically less, because SO doesn’t want to become a manager).  But SO treats me much, much, MUCH better, so that was a no-brainer. 😛

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