(Closed) Money Dance

posted 9 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

No, definitely not doing it.  What did they say that convinced you otherwise?

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yes, we are definitely doing the Money Dance! I’m Filipina American and it’s definitely a cultural tradition. If we didn’t do it, people would be really surprised and disappointed. I’m really looking forward to it and the fun pics you get to take with everyone you’ve danced with. It’s a way that you are able to dance and greet every single one of your guests — it’s the receiving line, Filipino American-style. No one has to pin $20s on you. Dollar bills and $5 are the norm, usually. And no one is forced to do it. These are good luck tokens.

I know some people will post and say how tacky it is. Before you do, please take a deep breath and think about the cultural traditions in YOUR wedding that might look tacky to others raised in a different culture. Some Filipinos think gift registries are unbelievably tacky: to some, it’s making a list and saying "this is what we want!"

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We’re doing it.  At first I thought it seemed sort of like you’re just begging for money, but really, it’s not as if you’re asking for $100.00 per dance, it’s just a buck.  If people object to it, they don’t have to participate, but I think a lot of people enjoy it.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We’re not doing a money dance only because we’re not doing a lot of "traditional" things.  I figure if they want to give us money, that’s what a card is for.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m still amazed on how Filipino weddings and PR weddings are so similar…well, I guess I shouldn’t be too surprised both were under Spanish rule at one point in history.

If it’s something cultural I say go for it.  I don’t find it to be tacky at all it’s part of a cultrual tradition. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Normally the bride carries a bag to put the $$ in and the groom gets the dollars pinned to him, or I’ve seen them put it in their pocket.

I wouldn’t want anyone putting pins in my wedding dress!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

From what I’ve seen it’s usually a couple songs depending how many people participate.  I’ve seen the money attached to the viel with bobby pins, I’ve seen the bride have a wristlet type bag.  And I would say dance with who ever wants to dance with you, it’s usually their way of spending time with you and wishing you well on your wedding day.

I think it’s up to you as far as what you want to do.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had never heard of this until a friend mentioned it.  She seemed to think it was a Southern thing but maybe that’s wrong.  I was shocked and looked at her like she was crazy.  Apparently in the South they do an Apron Dance where the bride wears an apron and you put the money in her pockets.  I’m sure in practice it’s a lot of fun and entertainment but I don’t think I could initiate it myself.  I would feel too awkward.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’re doing it. But nobody is pinning money on anyone else. The Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor will be collecting the money.

We were originally against it… but then I realized that since we’re not doing a receiving line, most people look forward to the dollar dance because it might be their only chance to get any time with you…. especially if you have a lot of guests.

It’s something that older folks really look forward to… so we’re doing it!

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

It depends on your guests if it’s awkward or not…. I’ve been to weddings where there is a long line and a member of the wedding party for each of you… I’ve also been to weddings where few people participated.  I don’t like the idea of ‘slow’ dancing with other guests at my wedding, which is why I’m not doing it.  I don’t think people think you are trying to pay for the wedding with their dollar… 

Usually it lasts depending on how many people they are – a good DJ will run this time well. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’re kind of having an "unofficial" dollar dance. I loathed the idea of a dollar dance originally. We’re pretty unstraditional and we’re not going the bouquet/garder toss or any of that stuff. But my fiance’s family is pretty traditional, and my fiance and future in-laws have said people will probably come up to me and ask to dance (and offer money to do so). So that’s what we’re doing. We’re having friends and family spread the word that we’re having the dollar dance, but we’re not making a spectacle out of it. If someone wishes to dance with either of us, they can give the money to a wedding party member, who will keep track of it in an envelope, and ask us to dance.

Or, really, they could just ask us to dance without paying up. It’s really all for the people who like and expect the money dance.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

My family is all for it. I’m not 100% sure though. What if no one dances with us? That’s my biggest fear, that no one will want to participate. I don’t care about the money, I don’t want people to feel like they have to.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’ve emceed and been Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid in tons of weddings with the Money Dance. The Money Dance can last anywhere from 15 mins to 30-45 minutes, depending on how many guests you have. Your attendants should hand out pins and then gently put a hand on the shoulder of the dancer to let him/her know the time is up (time enough for the guest to say, "congratulations, you look beautiful", your response, maybe something else from the guest, and then a thank you, a kiss on the cheek, and then, next dancer. You can have your DJ play anything — dorky cheesy stuff, slow jams, r&b, slow slong, hip hop, pop — whatever you want. It would be pretty funny to dance with older uncles to hip hop!

Filipinos usually pin the money on. I’ve seen cool things like money tiaras and ties and really creative, fun things. Remember that this is NOT asking for money. This is about the guests pinning on TOKENS of good luck. A dime would suffice! No money at all would suffice! It’s just a good luck wish from every single guest to the bride and groom.

@jaydee1125: It’s definitely the Spanish colonialism and Catholicism! Mexican, Puerto Rican, and Filipino Catholic wedding traditions are all pretty much the same, with the money dance, lasso/cord, veil, and arrhae (coins), and godparents (Ninos, Ninas/Padrinas/os/Ninangs/Ninongs, etc). When Mexicans and Filipinos marry each other in California, all the traditions stay exactly the same! (and we joke that the wedding starts twice as late! and everybody parties twice as hard!)

 

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