Post # 47
My family tradition is not to have a money dance, but most of the weddings I have been to have had them! In my region, there are a lot of families who grew up with a money dance as part of their cultural heritage. We don’t think it’s rude nor do we think it’s appropriate to be rude and call such a tradition “tacky”… That’s the height of impolite behavior in my book. Even though it isn’t a family tradition for me, I think it’s fun to have a chance to dance with the bride and groom and talk with them for a few moments one on one. I think it is now becoming a regional tradition as people from different cultures intermarry. In some families, the fathers have a tradition of giving a little extra gift when giving money to to the bride during the money dance. I have been told that within some cultures the original tradition was to pin the money on the bride’s dress so that she could have a little pin money!
Post # 48
Having a money dance is not a part of my heritage, and I will not be having one, however I would not be offended if someone did. Particualry, if as Verno Inferno mentioned, and there is some explanation of the custom provided.
Post # 49
I’m not even going to address the ettiquite issue. In my family, they’re expected, so we’re doing one. I like slow love songs for the dollar dance.
(Ok, I can’t help but comment a little, my culture also has a tradition of having “padrinos” for weddings, kind of like sponsors who help the couple pay for the wedding. We chose not to do this, but it would have been totally acceptable if we had. I’m sure other cultures would find this offensive, but it just depends on the value system of each culture.)
Some of our dollar dance songs:
Only In Dreams – Weezer
Come Rain or Come Shine – Billy Holiday
Something – The Beatles
Como Fue – Beny More
Black Metallic – Catherine Wheel
Post # 50
SO is the reason everyone is soooooo offended and think it’s sooooo tacky because everyone absolutely has to do it that attends. I was sure that this type of thing can be presented but everyone isn’t required to participate. If not then whats the harm….
Post # 51
I didn’t read all of the posts on here, but I did read that someone said this is a “New Phenomenon” to have dollar dances and that’s not true at all. My parents did a dollar dance over 30 years ago, and all of my aunts and uncles did too. They had people pay a dollar, they got a shot of liquor and danced with the bride or groom. Which is exactly what my fiance and I will be doing.