(Closed) Money Dance Dilema

posted 7 years ago in Music
  • poll: Should I do the Money Dance?
    Yes, do the money dance! : (8 votes)
    30 %
    No, avoid the money dance! : (19 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 3
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Is there another way you can use the purse in your wedding?  Maybe the ring bearer can carry the rings in it?  Could you carry it with you and have a handkerchief or a few tissues in it?  How small is it- maybe you could teather it to your bouquet?

    Post # 4
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    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    do the dance! i’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have one and wasn’t a blast! if you have a good dj that gets everyone into it, its really fun!!

    Post # 5
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    1550 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I am in the camp of “avoid the money dance at all costs.” I think it is tacky and I couldn’t imagine EVER doing it at my wedding!!!

    What if you used the purse by carrying the rings in it, or holding it for pictures? Is it big enough that you could set it out and guests could put cards in it? Or maybe it could hold programs?

    Post # 6
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    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    This question ususally is pretty controversial. So I’ll sum it up. The money dance is a cultural/regional thing. If you and your guests are used to it… there are really no issues. If not, then it can seem “tacky.” If you’re torn, ask around your family and friends what they believe and go with that.

    Polling this question will most likely get you “dont do it” or “it’s typical where I am from.”

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Do you want to do the money dance but are worried what your guests may think or do you not want to do the dance but are worried you’ll be disrespecting your deceased grandmother & mom?

    Post # 9
    Member
    5220 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It really all comes down to a regional thing… some circles/cultures always do a money dance and some don’t.

     

    At the end of the day, it is just 1 part of your entire wedding… so if you want to do it, then do it! If you don’t, then don’t sweat it…. people may or may not be offended, but if they’re your family & friends I am sure they aren’t going to take that offense through life.. it may just not be something they participate in.

    Where I am from, every wedding I have been to has a money dance, it wasn’t until WB that I learned that people don’t do the money dance, so it may be a matter of where you’re located

    Post # 10
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    13249 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    From a guest perspective, and a guest who does not go to weddings with the money dance, I’d be horribly uncomfortable with the money dance.  I think they are awkward and a little greedy – but that’s from a perspective of a region that absolutely does not do them.  If your guests are comfortable, that’s one thing.  It sounds like your FI’s family would not be comfortable with them.

    Post # 11
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    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I agree with all of the other posters.  We had a dollar dance (that’s what is called here, I’ve never heard if called the money dance), but I’ve never been to a wedding were there wasn’t a dollar dance.  Ever.  You on the other hand, have only been to one wedding where there was a dollar dance, I think this is a pretty good indicator of how your guests would feel about it. 

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    16196 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I agree that the money/dollar dance is a regional thing. Either your guests are used to it or they aren’t. It’s not the norm here, but I know that’s not the case everywhere.

    Post # 14
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    5073 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If you have to ask. . .

    no money dance!

    Post # 15
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Generally, I agree that I don’t love dollar dances & think they should be avoided if they’re not usually done within your circle. But, in this particular case, IF YOU HAVE YOUR HEART SET ON IT to honor your grandmother, I think it could be doable.

    You could consider giving people an option to put a dollar in the purse or have slips of paper available where people can trade in a piece of advice for a dance with the bride. 

    If you’re just doing it to appease your mom, I would consider what the other posters suggested and factor the purse into your wedding in another way.

    Post # 16
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    13249 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MissKiki:  If you wanted to do something like that, I’d just put your favor money towards donation and have a nice sign in each table that says “In lieu of favors, Bride and Groom have selected to make a donation to (Charity) in the name of their guests to honor (Grandma).”  No need to do the dollar dance/money dance.

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