(Closed) money dance, do or not? help!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No, your wedding isn’t tacky if you do it.

Is it my taste?  Nope.

Will you offend your guests?  Probably not, and who cares anyway?

If you’re not asking for money, why are you calling it a money dance?  Maybe you could change it to a ‘donation dance’ and give the money to an animal rescue or something else.

Post # 4
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If the money dance is very common in your social and family circles, I don’t think there’s anything offensive about it.

Also, if it’s very common, many people will expect it and will want to use the dance as a chance to give you a wedding gift.

Post # 5
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree, if it feels right for you then go for it! 

Post # 6
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am 50% Slovak, 25% Croatian, and 25% Polish. If I DIDN’T do a money dance, people would be offended.

It’s a really big culture thing. Part of the Slovak money dance tradition is for the mother of the bride to make bows out of bills and put them in the bride’s hair.

I’ve never been to a wedding where they didn’t do the dollar dance and it’s only been recently that I heard that people are “offended” by it or think it’s tacky.

The concept of the dollar dance is to give every guest a chance to dance with the bride (and sometimes groom). Typically a bridesmaid holds a little bag open at the beginning of the line for guests to drop a few bills in and take a shot of liquor — IF THEY WANT. It’s not like you’re going to be refused a dance if you don’t give a dollar or take a shot. Whoever wants to dance with the couple, can. The money bag is just one more opportunity for loved ones to help the new couple out financially. 

I do not see any harm in it whatsoever and cannot understand why anyone thinks it’s tacky. As a Slovak/Polish/Croatian girl, I can honestly say I’M offended by people who think this is tacky.

I say a big GO FOR IT if you really want to do it! It’s fun! 

Post # 7
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We did it. It was really nice, I got to dance with a bunch of different people and got pictures with a lot of people I wouldn’t have otherwise (plus we got some extra cash to take with us on the honeymoon).   These were our songs: “With a little help from my friends” Joe Cocker, “Moneymaker” Rilo Kiley, “Money (that’s what I want” Flying Lizards, “Can’t Buy Me Love” the Beatles, “Anything Anything” Dramarama

Post # 8
12973 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it really depends on your circle.  If I did it, it would be really offensive and rude, but that’s just because people don’t do it in my circle.  In fact, I never even heard of it until I joined the Bee!  If your circle is okay with it, though, I don’t think it’s wrong, persay.  It’s not my taste at all, and if I were a guest at a wedding that did it, I would be uncomfortable.

Post # 9
1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Go for it its not tacky at all.  I find youtube great for finding songs.

Post # 10
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Every wedding I have ever been to has done a dollar dance. I don’t believe it is tacky at all! 🙂

Post # 11
1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Some may thing it’s tacky, but that is just THEIR opinion.  Where I come from, it is at every wedding and is a time where guests can spend a little time with the bride and groom, say some  words and grab pictures. I will be doing it! But it also is very common here and not “frowned upon”

Post # 12
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

If it’s common, do it, but if people will be confused or turned off by it, don’t. 

Post # 13
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s not something that we considered but I know people who did it and loved it. Dollar dances are tradition in a lot of cultures and circles. If its something your guests will be used to and not offended by then go for it.

Post # 14
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’ve only been to one wedding that did it and I was really turned off by it. I won’t be doing it and, yes, I do find it tacky. I didn’t particpate in the one I had been at and it became lewd quickly.

Post # 15
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it just depends on your social circle.  I’d never heard of it, so to me it seems a bit odd to openly ask for money, but I’m sure it has cultural traditions that I just don’t know about. Fiance says peope he knows always do that, and he thought it was weird that I thought it was weird!

Post # 16
1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree it definitely depends on your circle. I’ve never been to a wedding where they DIDN’T do it it, so I never even thought about it being tacky until I joined the bee.

If it’s normal for your area, then go for it!

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