Post # 1
I have a Money Dance question! My fiance is filipino, my family is irish/italian. I have never heard of the money dance before – but my fiance wants to do it since its a tradition! No problem there 🙂 But i was wondering, is there any alternative to pinning money to my dress/veil? If there isnt, I’ll deal with it – but the thought doesnt make me too crazy! haha.
Post # 3
You can go around with a purse..its like a little purse kind of made of fabric and people can put envelopes and such in there. its something like this http://www.thebestsongs.net/best_songs/wedding_files/moneybag.jpg
Post # 4
I went to a wedding where someone was standing by collecting the money before they went up to dance with the bride/groom…just make sure you know and trust that person well : )
Post # 5
At my friend’s wedding, two of her bridesmaids wore aprons and stood by the couple. People would come over and stuff the money into the pockets of the apron and would walk over to dance with the bride and groom. It was nice because the bride and groom never had to concern themselves with the money, and they had 2 new aprons after their wedding!
And they made some nice dough 🙂
Post # 6
Yeah, I’ve usually seen it done where the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man handle the money, or other trusted friends. They will have a basket, satin bag or apron.
Post # 7
funny, i just posted this on another thread..
from what i know, the american version calls for two lines. men line up in one line to dance with the bride – the Maid/Matron of Honor collects money at the head of the line. in the other, women line up to dance with the groom and the best man collects the money. on a side note, it popularly goes by the “dollar dance” and $1 dollar bills are mostly given.
at filipino weddings, those who want to dance will still form lines but when when they go up to dance, they pin their money to the couple and thats how ive always known it. the Maid/Matron of Honor and best man usually help start the chain by selecting a “starting place”. attendees usually approach and pin their money to where the last bill was pinned. in the end, the couple is usually wearing several “sashses” (yes, think miss america sash!) made of money. sometimes theres even so much that crowns are made, belts, and random bills are pinned to the outfits. be wary though that if you dont have an efficient “pinning” technique planned out, it can run long with attendants figuring out how to attach their money. ive seen everything from pieces of tape to large paper clips being passed out! it often takes several songs to complete so keep that in mind whoever is MCing your party.
i googled some random pics to give you an idea.
The last wedding i went to, the DJ had not done a filipino wedding before (bt was familiar with US money dance traditions) so when the money dance was taking long (due to the pinning of the money) he stopped the music and (rudely) announced: “Um, excuse me, i didnt say anything about pinning money onto the bride and groom. we’re gonna just collect it because this is taking too long.” one of the groomsmen spoke up and said “just play the music man” and the dj CAME BACK at him (on the mic) “Oh, you don’t want to mess with the DJ, my friend”. so frikin rude!!!! everyone kept carrying on the filipino way anyways …
OMG!! I WOULD HAVE FLIPPED IF THAT WAS SAID AT MY WEDDING!
sorry that was long! hope this helps!
Post # 8
Thank you so much!! That doesnt seem so bad – paperclips! I thought there would be little holes in my dress ha. Do you think if we had the best man and maid of honor collecting the money like some of the other bees said, that the flipino people would be confused? I know if someone messed around with my tradition, i might be like whaaa the heck is this haha.
and thats CRAZY that that dj did that! omg! i would have been like “get out” haha. wow!
Post # 9
When I saw it at a wedding it was more like a line of people and the bride had one of her maid’s with a ‘bucket’ for everyone to throw the money in
Post # 10
We are using top hats to collect the money… (MOH And Best Man)… Mostly because I don’t want pins all over my dress!
Post # 11
not pinning the money together is completely acceptable even at filipino weddings. i think it would be even more understandable since you arent filipino. i think the tradition is carried on partly because it can make for great, unique pics.
but yeah, it wont be confusing to your filipino guests. in fact in a time-crunched wedding, it can help not going through all of that. having one or two central people collect wont be offensive to tradition in anyway. you might want to let your dj or emcee know so when he announces that the money dance is about to begin, he can let guests know where their bills can go! (just in case anyone gets confused)
oh and to clarify, each bill isnt necessarily pinned to the dress. its pinned to the last bill in the chain. im sure filipino brides are just as concerned with getting stabbed (lol) and having a million holes in their gown as everyone else! =) i like the paper clip idea myself – it was done at a wedding i attended but i never saw, up close how effective/stable it actually is. im curious to do a trial run! so send those dollah bills my way everyone! hahahaa