(Closed) Money Donations?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Which money donation option is best?
    Money dance : (11 votes)
    21 %
    Money tree : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Neither, they're tacky. : (40 votes)
    77 %
    Do both! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You will get all sorts of feedback on this. Basically it comes down to what is normally done in your “circle.”

    I’ve never heard of a money tree and I despise the dollar dance (not so much because of the money grab, but moreso because as a guest, I find it immensely boring, sitting there through 5 songs as the line of guests with $1 bills waits for their turn with the bride/groom).

    On other threads, I’ve read some people say their guests would be upset/lost without the dollar dance. To each their own – but personally, I see it in a negative light.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My aunt did a dollar dance at her wedding and I don’t remember thinking it was anything bad. I won’t do it because it will make ME feel uncomfortable but I know if I did my guests wouldn’t mind (at least on MY side). I wouldn’t judge but I also wouldn’t participate 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We are doing a money dance (but not for the money), just because its a fun tradition.

    @milesbella – 5 songs seems kind of long! The way my family does it is other guests can still be on the dancefloor dancing, so it doesnt stop the flow of the party.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Never heard of a money tree. I think a money dance is ok if it is part of your culture/circle of friends. If I went to a wedding with a money tree I’d think it was rude.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I had to look up money tree….I don’t advise that.

    I think it’s pretty common to have a money dance where I come from…so I wouldn’t blink if I saw it…but I know some regions it would be considered very gift grabby.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    I dislike both options.  Both are just asking for money, which is never polite.  Guests have already taken time from their day to attend your function, bought a gift, and it leaves a bad taste in my mouth to then ask for even more money.

    Seems like a shakedown.

    Post # 9
    Member
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    In my opinion trying to get money donations at your wedding is kind of tacky. If they wanted to give you money they would have gifted it to you. An idea one of our friends did at his wedding was:

    He made a jar and set it by the bar that said “Tips for the Bride & Groom”. It may be less tacky.

    Post # 10
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The dollar dance is one thing but a money tree? Not a fan. A lot of people find both options tacky and while I don’t necessarily disagree, I have seen a dollar dance done and it’s really not that bad. The money tree, on the other hand, is a blatant demand for money and I don’t think thats appropriate.

    Also, I wouldn’t refer to either option as a “donation”. That generally puts a bad taste in peoples mouth.

    Post # 11
    Member
    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I have never seen a money tree.. But I have never been to a wedding without a money dance. I think a money tree would be weird just because its like “hey leave your money here” at least with the dance they are getting to spend one on one time with the bride or groom.

    Post # 13
    Member
    726 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @SeattleMolly: you mean to tell me you cant dance at your wedding but you want to have a money dance?? This sounds extreamly tacky to me. I cant even imagine, I think I would get up and leave. If you need money that bad I would cut back on somthing in the wedding.

    Post # 15
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    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Jenbee: Agreed.

    If there’s no dancing at your reception, do not have a money dance. That is just blatently asking for money and rude.

    Post # 16
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think that if there is not dancing at the reception a money dance would be out of line. I would just do a card box and be done. 

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