Money for wedding

posted 6 months ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Busy bee

We typically give $200-$250 and that’s generally what we received as well

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We usually give $100-$150 depending on how close we are. So far, this seems to be what we’re getting for our wedding as well.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Usually $100-150

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

200-250

Post # 6
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Busy bee

We used to give $200-250 when we were living far from family and traveling significantly for each wedding. Now that we live closer to family we give $300. Most of our “peer” friends and family gave $150 per person or $300 per couple. Older couples gave $500-$1000

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

Think here in the Midwest we must be cheap.  I’d say $50-100 depending on how close I was to the couple.  It’s also what I’ve received.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Typically we give $200-300.  More if it’s a close friend/family member, maybe less if we have significant travel expenses.  That was pretty average from what we received as well. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

We received $50 from most, a few hundred from older guests, but our families don’t have much money. My Maid/Matron of Honor gave us $25 so that was a surprise…. especially incomparison to what I got her but 🤷🏻‍♀️ Shit happens. I read about some of the amounts people on here give/get and I’m a bit jealous! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

£50 is my limit tbh and that’s for a close family member as weddings are expensive when you’re paying for accommodation and hen parties etc. I would gift £30 for a close friend. If I was an evening invite only then £15. In the past when I was struggling financially and was self employed I gave £15, I felt guilty but I had to take two unpaid days off work as the wedding was on a Monday (UK weddings all all day affairs and end at midnight) and far away from where I lived so it was literally all I could afford. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re usually in the $200-300 range depending on the closeness of the friend. For our best friends we did $500, and another best friend we did a pretty expensive (over $500) excursion on their honeymoon. We’re also in our mid 30’s and established so it’s not a financially hardship to do that. We got married at 27/30 and most of our friends were 30+ and we got similar gifts. The older generations gave us $500-1000. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I generally give $150-200 depending on how close I am to the couple. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I’m in a region where large gifts are common (as mentioned above) and I think it’s a double edged sword. Sure, gifts are large, but I also have to give gifts that size every time I am invited to a wedding. Most weddings entail $50-$100 on an engagement gift, $100-$150 on a shower gift, and $200-$300 on a wedding gift. And then the expectations for the wedding are higher – people would have gossiped about us if we didn’t have a sit down dinner, serve steak, have live entertainment, a cocktail hour with passed apps, a fully open top shelf bar, etc. And, while we got on average $150 per person who attended, our “plates” cost $215. I know this is an outdated way to determine gifts, and we were so thrilled with people’s generosity, but it’s nearly impossible to cover your plate in these regions.

I would be happy if everything involving weddings in my region/culture got taken down a notch, and maybe at some point there will be a correction – but at this point our wedding is over and we’ll continue to participate in the complex for all our friends and family who get married in the coming years.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

I think it depends. I give $100 but you can always do a different combo such as some cash and a registry gift or some cash and a gift of your own, etc. 

 

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