(Closed) Money Gift- How much is enough if I’m not invited to a wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
8734 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@bnjourney: Really anything is enough, it’s more about what you can afford and what you feel is right.

You could also organize an office “bridal shower” and have people who want to pitch in some money to get a cake, card, and give her the rest of the money.

Post # 4
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@bnjourney: $25 I would say. I usually give $100 to close friends at their weddings. But if you aren’t going and just want to be nice $25 maybe $50 if you are feeling generous 🙂

Post # 5
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Thats very thoughtful of you! IMO I would say if you really feel like giving her a gift, which you are not obligated to, I’d shoot for around $50.

Post # 6
5091 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think it’s really sweet that you want to get her something even though she’s not inviting you.  I would honestly avoid a cash gift, but maybe a gift card would be okay?  I would do between $30 to $50.

Post # 7
3180 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think giving a gift when you are invited is above and beyond what etiquette requires, so any amount would be “enough”.  

Something else to consider though is if I was the bride in this case, receiving a monetary gift from someone who wasn’t invited might make me feel bad for not inviting them.  But that might just be me!

Post # 8
3616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

That is very very thoughtful of you. I think anything you feel comfortable giving is already more than enough. A thoughtful card is already plenty.

Post # 9
3373 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would think $25 is okay for a coworker… that’s usually how much I donate to the big office gift for coworker’s babies and weddings (when I’m not invited to the wedding).

That being said, I didn’t get a gift or card from any of my coworkers. None were invited to my wedding, but  I’ve worked here for 4 years and have chipped in for a zillion retirement/baby parties.

Post # 10
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t give anything besides a congrats card, but if you insist… $20. If you don’t hang out outside of work, you aren’t really friends… just acquaintances and you aren’t invited, so there is no need to get anything.

Post # 11
3622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d say get her a giftcard. I’m sure people won’t like what I have to say here, but $25 is what my great-aunt gives me for Christmas – it’s kind of cheesy to give that to someone for their wedding. However, a giftcard in that same amount to a nice restaurant in your area would be appropriate.

Post # 13
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’d say anything between $25 and $50! =)

Post # 14
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

That’s really sweet and I agree, $25-$50 is plenty.

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