Post # 1
My coworker whom I recently became pretty close with is getting married soon. She finalized her guest list before we started working together so I am not invited to her wedding. I still want to get her a gift and I know she’d prefer cash. How much do you think is enough? (I’ve known her for about 5 months and we don’t really hang out outside the office.)
Post # 3
@bnjourney: Really anything is enough, it’s more about what you can afford and what you feel is right.
You could also organize an office “bridal shower” and have people who want to pitch in some money to get a cake, card, and give her the rest of the money.
Post # 4
@bnjourney: $25 I would say. I usually give $100 to close friends at their weddings. But if you aren’t going and just want to be nice $25 maybe $50 if you are feeling generous 🙂
Post # 5
Thats very thoughtful of you! IMO I would say if you really feel like giving her a gift, which you are not obligated to, I’d shoot for around $50.
Post # 6
I think it’s really sweet that you want to get her something even though she’s not inviting you. I would honestly avoid a cash gift, but maybe a gift card would be okay? I would do between $30 to $50.
Post # 7
I think giving a gift when you are invited is above and beyond what etiquette requires, so any amount would be “enough”.
Something else to consider though is if I was the bride in this case, receiving a monetary gift from someone who wasn’t invited might make me feel bad for not inviting them. But that might just be me!
Post # 8
That is very very thoughtful of you. I think anything you feel comfortable giving is already more than enough. A thoughtful card is already plenty.
Post # 9
I would think $25 is okay for a coworker… that’s usually how much I donate to the big office gift for coworker’s babies and weddings (when I’m not invited to the wedding).
That being said, I didn’t get a gift or card from any of my coworkers. None were invited to my wedding, but I’ve worked here for 4 years and have chipped in for a zillion retirement/baby parties.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t give anything besides a congrats card, but if you insist… $20. If you don’t hang out outside of work, you aren’t really friends… just acquaintances and you aren’t invited, so there is no need to get anything.
Post # 11
I’d say get her a giftcard. I’m sure people won’t like what I have to say here, but $25 is what my great-aunt gives me for Christmas – it’s kind of cheesy to give that to someone for their wedding. However, a giftcard in that same amount to a nice restaurant in your area would be appropriate.
Post # 12
Thank you all for your opinions!
Post # 13
I’d say anything between $25 and $50! =)
Post # 14
That’s really sweet and I agree, $25-$50 is plenty.