Post # 1
im starting to stress a little big about money. Im fortunate enough to have my parents pay for my wedding.
a little background: I’m 24 years old and work for an IT company, i make a little less than $30k a year and i get paid once a month. My paychecks basically covered rent, car, insurance and living expenses. I’ve become pretty cautious in my spending..Anyway, i moved “home” a few months ago to try and save money before the wedding and ever since i’ve just been putting my rent in savings..(not very much about $500.00/month) so all in all i have about $1500 in savings. Friday we went and bought our wedding bands! so exciting but it put a huge dent in my savings 🙁 im now down to about a grand. Luckily i have bought most of my Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts already but i still have parents gifts and such…
just curious to see how much you other bee’s plan to spend? Not including DIY projects (because god knows i’ve spent money on that as well) but strictly for things like – Bands – Bridesmaid or Best Man Gifts – Groom gift- Parental gifts- (rent/deposits for a new place)
all in all i think im somewhere around the $2500 range…
His band: $500.00
MY Parents gifts: $320.00
His Parents gift: $200.00
Flight for our priest: $200.00 (my half)
Grooms gift: $300.00
Bridesmaid or Best Man Gifts: $300.00
Rent/Deposit on our new home: $900.00 (my half)
so by myself im looking at $2,700+
waaaa 🙁 haha
Just curious to see if that number is average or not
Post # 3
What about reception hall, dress etc? Or are you just asking about the stuff you have listed out? All together for the wedding, we are trying to keep things right around the 5-6 thousand mark, including the things my parents are covering like the food. Just for the stuff you have listed out, I think his band is about 300, gifts for the parents and bridal party we want to keep around 500 (100 for each set of parents, the 300 going to the bridal party) and I don’t think we are going to buy each other traditional gifts–we already own our home and have combined finances for household stuff, so I think as a gift we’ll “buy” each other either the new living room or dining room set I have been pestering him about.
Post # 4
Are you talking about if your parents are paying for the majority of the wedding but the personal expenses you have?
Bridesmaid gifts: $150
Groomsmen gifts: $100
His band: $280
My band: $20
Hotel room for wedding night: $250
House for me night before wedding: $90
House gor Darling Husband night before wedding: $60
Jewelry/accessories (garter,shoes): approx $150
Parents gifts: we are planning to make them albums and havent done it yet, Im expecting it to be about $60-80 for each set of parents (there are 3) so total $180-240
Total: $3780-3840 WOW!!!!
Post # 5
My parents are paying for most of the wedding but my portion will breakdown something like this:
-FI’s band – $1000
-Hotel for DJ – $100
-Favors – $250 (my half)
-STD – $150
-Hotel – $250 (my half)
-Gifts – $500 (for BMs)
-Liquor – $250 (my half)
-Shoes – $100
-Placecards – $100
-Signage – $100
-Table Runners – $50
-Charger Plates – $150
-Honeymoon – $2500 (my half)
-Bathroom Baskets – $50
Total: $5550, yikes!
Post # 6
Wow, you’re really spending a lot of $ on gifts for your parents and FI! I gave my Darling Husband a card on our wedding day. And we didn’t buy our parents any gifts, we thought that was a little excessive. WE plan on eventually gifting them albums for Xmas, once we have access to our photos.
The things we paid for were:
1/2 of the Rehearsal Dinner: $2,000
Gifts for wedding party: $400ish for all 12 members
Honeymoon: $4,500 (ish, I don’t know the exact amount)
Wedding Bands: $1,500
Grooms Tux rental and custom shirt: $250
Brides hair/makeup trials and eyelash extensions: $300
I’m sure there were other things, but for the most part our parents picked up the tab for the big ticket items like the reception, ceremony, decor, band, etc. Our hotel rooms were free since we had the wedding at the hotel ballroom. But I felt bad asking my Mom to pay for things like my trials and my DH’s tux.. I know they intended to, but I felt like we should pay for something like that.
Post # 7
Our wedding was around 3,000 miles away from where we live, and we were there for 10 days, so our hotel/car rental was around $2,000.
Wedding bands: $1750 total for both
No bridal party, so no presents there
We decided that wedding presents to each other were pretty pointless since we were already pledging our lives to one another
I made high-end photo books for our parents, that came out to about $350 total.
We paid for around $15,000 of our own wedding, which was half. Your OP isn’t clear about what elements to include in the calculation. Since you only have “Above $2,000” as your highest option, i’m going to assume that you didn’t mean the entire wedding, since the average wedding is around $25,000-30,000 and many of us pay for them mostly or all by ourselves.
Also, our rent on our one-bedroom apartment with bare bones amenities is $1350…so $900 sounds really freaking amazing!)
Post # 8
Our wedding cost between $11-12k and we paid for it ourselves.
Post # 9
Sorry! i applaude you ladies who are paying for your own wedding!
i guess my question was more along the lines of personal expenses and not necessarily direcly associated with the wedding (although they are) — meaning ceremony, reception, food, drinks, all the basics that are included in throwing a wedding.
Im glad people are posting because i completely forgot to include honeymoon and Hair/makup costs! gahh the numbers keep growing.
Post # 10
@totheislnds: FH and I are paying for our own wedding in France, it is a simple wedding with only 150 guests for the cocktail and 100 for the dinner. so far we have spent 12K euro. and we still have to buy the wedding bands, the groom’s suits, and the honeymoon.
Post # 11
We paid for our wedding. It was a simple JoP ceremony with only our immediate families in attendance. Our “reception” for 13 people was dinner out at our favorite restaurant and we just showed up there.
Breakdown for what we paid for:
Justice of the Peace $200
Marriage License $100
Reception for 8 adults and 5 kids $300
Wedding bands approx. $1300
Honeymoon at local resort hotel $500-$600
We didn’t buy a wedding gown or rent a tux. Pulled our favorite outfits from our closet. No hair or make up stylists, no bridesmaids or groomsmen, no limos, no special jewelry, veil, etc. It was a quickie ceremony on a weekday afternoon!
Post # 12
If we have a big wedding I will end up paying about 15-18k myself.
Post # 13
We are paying for our own wedding, costing me around $30K or so.
Post # 14
Our wedding is 38k plus we are taking a dream honeymoon! Bora Bora in an over water bungalow for 10 days. Which is 13k. Total 51k.
Post # 15
We are making contributions based on what me, my Fiance, and our parents can afford, then dividing that pool among all the expenses (venue, food, dress, rehearsal dinner, honeymoon, rings, etc). I contributed $5K of my own savings, which was a bit of a stretch for me.