Post # 1
I am the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding. She has always been very shallow in terms of gifts, how much people spend on her, etc. All I have heard her bitch about is money, how this gift isn’t what she wanted, how that gift is cheap, etc. Her sister & mother are the same way and they are venting out loud to some of the bridesmaids about it. Her shower is coming up and the bride told them that no one has been buying her expensive gifts, only her cheap ones. Four of the bridesmaids (myself included) spent about $70 each on her gifts for the shower & we made it one joint gift. So totalling over $250. She has mentioned that she doesn’t know why “people” (us) didn’t chip in to get her something more expensive. This has just about been the last straw for me. I want to drop out of this wedding. The bridesmaids are spending about $500 between the dress, hair, makeup, etc. The bachelorette party? Another $300 at least. Plus a wedding gift. Plus the engagement gift. This family is NEVER happy. Am I being unreasonable? When did weddings become all about the gifts?
Post # 2
what a cow. If you’re willing to lose the friendship drop out of the wedding, i’m guesing soon it will be “i need a destination bachelorette” and “oh we need our nails done at thissalon” and “btw last inute decoration expenses”
Post # 3
I’ve never understand the engagement gift, shower gift and wedding gift. Where I’m from, it’s a one and done. You either bring one to the shower or bring it to the wedding.
Post # 4
Honestly, do you think you’ll ever be able to be really close with her again…especially if she continues to get worse? I would rather be gentle, but firm and honest with her in the hopes of getting through to her, and risk losing her friendship than just let her keep pushing and thinking treating people that was is acceptable by standing by.
Post # 5
I’m not sure why you agreed to be in this wedding in the first place; clearly you were aware of her behavior before she was even engaged! Drop out and ditch the friendship. She sounds annoying and you sound like you’ve run out of patience (I don’t blame you!) so spend your precious time with people that make you happy.
Post # 6
Nope. Bye Felicia
that is so sad. Hopefully she will grow up at some point and realize that people who care about her are far more important than silly expensive gifts
Post # 7
You should do her a favor and let her know how unbecoming her disgusting attitude is. I guess momma didnt teach her better.
Post # 8
I’m confused as to why she would put “cheap” items on her registry if all she wants is people to buy her expensive things.
Post # 9
What a Materialistic Mary! I’d wouldn’t get her anything else, she obviously only values friendship by the money you’re prepared to lay out. That’s a deal breaker.
Post # 10
How can you stand to be friends with her? If this is at all possible, i would sit down with her and lay it out for her…tell her how greedy she is coming across and how you want her to remember the big picture and the important things in life.
In all honestly though…if she was like this before the wedding, then I highly doubt she’ll change her tune. So I guess you can either suck it up and get through the wedding or drop out and lose the “friendship”.
Post # 11
I would proprobably just ignore her. Don’t give he anything else. Go through the motions. To do the minumum I have too. No use getting upset. Nothing it required. Not gifts. You may hve to spend the money on the wedding stuff. Like hair and the dress but thats it. Everything else is volantary. Her being a bitch would make me not want to do anything for her.
Post # 12
I’d spend what I could afford, and nothing more. If she said anything else, I’d make some snide comment that “we can’t all be as well-off as you” and see if she’d take the hint.
Post # 13
Oy, I would of said no to being in that wedding. I hope karma bites her on her expensive butt.
Post # 14
Horrible…I would start making her home made gifts.
Post # 15
We’ve been best friends for over 20 years. I’ve been able to just ignore it in the past but now it’s really bothering me, especially that her mom & sister are making it known to the bridesmaids. She’s my absolute best friend. I can’t imagine us not being friends…BUT this is one of her qualities that I just cannot stand. I’ve held my tongue all these years but I feel that soon, I won’t be able to anymore. :/
Thanks all, at least I know it’s not just me imagining things!