(Closed) Money-Hungry Bride!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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1365 posts
Bumble bee

Gross. I’ve been in that position and ultimately dropped out of the wedding. I still gave her her gift — a handmade quilt that cost around $500 in supplies and took me months to make. I heard her talking later with another friend at a party that handmade gifts are so tacky and she couldn’t believe she received one from someone she thought was a friend. We are no longer friends. Do yourself a favor and sever ties now. 

Post # 17
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1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Tell her once and for all she is being rude and that some people would find even a handwritten card the best gift ever. if she shows remorse, stay. if she doesn’t get it, you can drop out.

Post # 19
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2927 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

kmn683:  You are not being unreasonable.  I have a former, yes former, best friend who had the same entitled attitude as your friend.  There are several reasons why we are no longer friends, but her sense of me, me, me used to drive me crazy.  I spent nearly a grand on her wedding (I was MOH) when it was all done and sometimes wish I hadn’t been so generous because we haven’t spoken since.

You may just want to save yourself the misery and drop out if you won’t lose a lot of money.  My friend was like this going into her wedding, but for whatever reason, the wedding brought out the selfishness and entitled attitude ten fold.  I don’t understand why wedding do that to some people.

Post # 20
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2927 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

farmfreshjoy:  That’s a terrible story!  You don’t need “Friends” like that at all.

Post # 21
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1365 posts
Bumble bee

sunnierdaysahead2:  I know, right?! It sort of gutted me in the beginning but I got over it. We had been best friends for 10+ years. Oh well. 

Post # 22
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2927 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

farmfreshjoy:  Not to threadjack but I’m also no longer friends with my so-called best friend of nearly 20 years after the way she acted at her wedding.  It’s hard to end a long friendship.

Post # 23
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512 posts
Busy bee

I would keep what you bought and get her a $25 Target gift card.

Post # 24
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62 posts
Worker bee

I think the best course of action before dropping out is bringing this issue up to her. If you can gently tell her that all the bridesmaids (or just speak for yourself if you wish) are doing the best they can regarding gifts/spending money on her wedding and that it comes off as ungrateful when she makes comments regarding “cheap gifts” and is hurtful. Maybe she’s so used to making these comments and getting away with it that she doesn’t even realize how rude she’s being. If she decredits your feelings then I would drop out.

Post # 25
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1365 posts
Bumble bee

sunnierdaysahead2:  I’m sorry for you, too! It’s so hard, but I think we’re probably both better off. I’m dealing with another bridezilla friend right now (friends for nearly 30 years) and I fear that may go the same way. ☹️

Post # 26
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6610 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

kmn683:  If she has been your best friend for 20 years, then you can tell her how disgusting her attitude is.  Maybe use nicer words, but point out how she appears to others when she talks like that.  That is what a best friend is for: brutal honesty.  If need be, show her the numbers.  Ask her beforehand just how much she expects someone to spend on her and then show her what you have actually spent (Hopefully it’s way the hell more, just to put it in perspective).  Remind her that people have plane tickets and car rentals…. oh and also that she’s being selfish and greedy and thoughtless and materialistic and a general asshole.  With any luck, she’ll check the attitude in public at least – she clearly learned it from her mom.

Post # 27
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11640 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

bye Felicia!

Post # 28
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161 posts
Blushing bee

kmn683:  I think you should have a heart to heart. Let her know exactly how you feel and give her examples. I’m not saying she’s not being a huge witch, but give her a chance to change or you’ll be throwing away a very long friendship and she’ll never know why. 

At least this way you can say you tried everything you could to salvage the friendship, but you just cannot continue to be her MOH/friend.

Post # 29
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586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal

Do you like her as a person or is this just a friendship long past its expiration? If your dislikes outweight your likes with her, it might be time to cut your losses. 

 

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