(Closed) Money Matters Update – The End of My Tether

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
Member
9688 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Nona99:  ((HUGS))  I’m so sorry to hear you’re still going through this situation but glad to hear your baby boy Cairo is doing well.  🙂

Is all hope lost that they’ll pay you back?  Have they received their tax refunds yet?  We haven’t received ours yet, things seem to be running behind.

Another suggestion might be to consider taking them to small claims court.  I know that isn’t an ideal thing to do but it would get your money back.  And it would be a wake up call to these people – to stop taking advantage of others’ kindness and generosity with no consequences.

But since these are people you are (were) very close to, that may not be the road you want to take. 

As far as being in the wedding, I wouldn’t blame you if you backed out, because it sounds as though it may only add to your misery to be part of it.  This whole thing sucks!  I’m so sad for you.  I hate it when people don’t do the right thing and nice people get taken advantage of.  You did a wonderful thing for them, they wouldn’t have even gotten engaged without your help.

Have you thought about writing them a letter about how all this has hurt you?

Post # 4
Member
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I understand if you’ve given up on getting the money back. The ball really is in their court at this point (and has been for quite a while), and knowing that you needed the money to get Cairo better you’d think they’d want to hurry it along.  I would definitely be majorly hurt if someone knew my puppy was sick and didn’t ask me how I/she was doing.

I think the two of you made the right decision about not being in the wedding party.  It is probably for the best, as I have a feeling they might try to get you to purchase things for the wedding to be honest.  And as you said yourself, this relationship is only emotionally bankrupting you.  It doesn’t seem very healthy for you to continue in it and I find it really sad that this “friend” of yours doesn’t seem bothered to treat you this way. People can be really crappy sometimes

((hugs)) Wish you all the best!

 

Post # 6
Member
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Nona99:  No advice but I am glad the puppy is ok and I would say that distancing yourselves from these people sounds like the right thing to do!

Post # 7
Member
9688 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Nona99:    Yay for you!!  That’s awesome.  You’ve made the right decision to keep negativity out of your life.  It’s normal to feel the grief, though.  And you’re dealing with it in a healthy way.

((HUGS!!!!))

Post # 11
Member
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Nona99:  I can relate – I feel the same way about my cat!! 🙂

Post # 12
Member
9688 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Nona99:   Haha!  You’d think they could probably guess on their own.  I mean, they really would expect you and Mr 99 to do all that for them after shafting you like that?

Post # 15
Member
9688 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Nona99:   Yep, avoidance would do the trick.  And give them a taste of their own medicine.  Unless they’re complete idiots they’ll have to realize they brought it on themselves.

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