Post # 1
I got married in Toronto in September 2007 and I’m looking for advice on gift etiquette….
My cousin was in my wedding party and she gave us a gift (not on our registry). For the most part, my husband and I give money at the wedding (and gifts for the shower). I am Greek and he is Italian, so that’s just the tradition for us. Now that my cousin is getting married (she is greek as well and is marrying greek), should I give a gift instead since she gave me a gift….
If so, I have no idea how much to spend. She got me a Henckles knift set (just the single Henckles, not the double man), so I have NO idea how much she spent, but was probably no more that $150. Should I just buy her a gift off her registry or give money? She is getting married in Cleveland actually, so it would be easier to just bring money, or I can order her something off the registry, but I have no idea how much to spend….
HELP>…..I don’t want her to think I’m cheap…
Post # 3
How about a gift card to the place where she is registered? Easy to carry! And you know she wants things from that store!
Post # 4
I AM cheap – unless it is immediate family – I give $50. And I never give anyone anything from a registry either. I run an animal sanctuary and spend almost $500 a month on food for them so I can not afford to be generous. If it was someone like a best friend, MAYBE $100.
Post # 5
I think cash is completely appropriate. In this case I don’t think you need to "match" what she gave you exactly–in amount or in the way you give it (i.e. moner or a physical gift)
Don’t feel obligated to compete. i would spend what you would normally spend on a wedding gift of someone that close. $50, $100, $150?
Post # 6
We try to match the amount that someone has given my sister during her wedding. If we have become closer to the couple, we give more. If we have not, we give about the same amount as they had given.
Post # 7
I think cash is appropriate as well. I would get her a gift card at a store she is registered at, or cash, equal to the amount of the gift she got you. I know it sounds bad but we like the fact we got married first out of our friends getting married this year, so for the next 5 gifts we buy, we dont have to worry about if we will look cheap or not,
Post # 8
Depends. For showers, I usually give a gift off the registry. For the wedding, I usually give cash. Unless it’s a close friend/family member and I know they really want something in particular off their registry.
When in doubt though, go with cash.
Post # 9
Cash. It’s kind of the one thing people could use the most, and there isn’t a "cash" button on the registries.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
I think cash is safe. If they want something off the registry, then can use the cash to buy it!