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Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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weddingmaven :  Hearing what other people spent and how they spent it can be very helpful in starting out with wedding planing.

Most of us only plan a wedding once, so while yes we shouldn’t be basing oru budgets and plans off of some kind of “keeping up with the Joneses” nonsense, hearing what other people did with what amount of money is a pretty good starting point for figuring out what’s realistic for a couple that is just beginning to plan.

You simply saying “my parents planned and paid for it all” and “most young couples just starting out should probably not be spending large sums of money on a wedding” isn’t exactly helpful and came off suuuuper snooty, whether that is how you intended it or not.

Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

How much did you spend on your wedding and what was/ is your budget? 

We spent almost $40K, not including honeymoon or rings. Our goal budget was between $32-35K for 135 guests.

How did you finance? 

My parents generously paid for the large majority of the wedding. They offered us a lump sum and said anything leftover was a wedding gift for us, which was an incentive to keep costs down. My husband’s mom and her husband paid for the rehearsal dinner. We paid for gifts for our wedding party and parents, our wedding weekend hotel, my husband’s suit rental, photography for the rehearsal dinner, and various decor things here and there that I didn’t want to ask my parents to pay for (koozies, chargers, cake topper, programs, etc.) We spent around $3K.

Where did you splurge and where did you save? 

We splurged on a photographer (very important to me), venue (one location for ceremony/ reception plus ability to bring in our own alcohol), and catering.

We saved by not hiring a videographer, opting for a DJ vs. a band, purchasing decor second hand, DIY-ing a few decor items, my dress ($1,100 – I know that may not be “saving” to all), alcohol (purchased from Costco). I also wore shoes I already owned and jewlery that belongs to my mom. 

Lastly, where are you located? 

Atlanta

ETA – my dad was the officiant, so we saved on an officiant fee!

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

How much did you spend? Somewhere around 70K not including rings or honeymoon

How did you finance? Cash 

Where did you splurge and where did you save? Splurged on venue and decor. Saved on invitations. 

Wedding was in Toronto, Canada. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee

How much did you spend?

Not counting rings or my dress, we budgeted $10k and spent $10.5k

How did you pay for it?

DH and I paid equally for the wedding out of our personal savings. 

What did you splurge on? Where did you cut corners? I splurged on my dress ($1500 including alterations). We saved money by having a friend officiate, my friend did my hair and makeup, another friend was our DJ. We also had only unlimited beer and wine. We had a buffet dinner. No Decor. No bouquets – boutonnières and corsages for family. No wedding party. Our wedding cupcakes came from the grocery store. We didn’t do printed invites – no STDs. No programs, no personalized napkins, no favors. 

Where did you get married?

Major metropolitan city in the southeast US. 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

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elopenotanoption :  No budget – overall the wedding was around 2000 USD, in a major metropolitan US city. This included officiant’s fee, wedding gown, 2 platinum wedding rings, reception, 2 cakes, and flowers.

Post # 36
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

We’re in the California Bay Area. Our budget was 10-15k and we ended up spending around 15-17k. We had 70 guests and a 2 year engagement so we spread our payments out over the course of the 2 years (we also bought a house in that time so that impacted things a bit and we streamlined wherever possible to simplify).

We saved in a lot of areas- My goal was that after the wedding, I wouldn’t wake up the next day feeling like “Well that was a whole lot of money we just threw away for a 5 hour party.” so when I wanted to splurge and buy ALL THE THINGS! I just kept my focus on what our agreed upon top priorities were- Food, Family, Sacred and Joyful. Anything that didn’t support or contribute to that, we pared down.

My mother used to design and make wedding dresses so she and I made my dress together (which was a LOT of fun and my dress was gorgeous). My brother is a professional wedding DJ so he offered his services for our wedding. We found an amazing funky little venue that was crazy cheap for a 24 hour rental and I have a really good friend who is a project manager and offers her services as a wedding coordinator when her friends get married. All of those things helped our budget a lot. We also DIY’ed our decor and went with a simple, minimalist vibe that worked really well in our venue. We got married on a holiday weekend so I got a great deal on alcohol leading up to the wedding and my in laws provided the alcohol for our signature drinks as a contribution/gift to us for the wedding.

We splurged on food because I love good food and had heard great things about a team where one of the chefs used to be the sous chef for a Michelin rated restaurant until he went out on his own with a new partner. The food was outstanding and we got a lot of compliments on it.

We also splurged on a photographer because pics or it didn’t happen! 😛 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

How much did you spend on your wedding and what was/ is your budget? 

We’re spending around 20k. We didn’t really set a budget as we already had money in the bank.  

How did you finance? 

We’re paying for the wedding with money that my late grandmother left to me.  

Where did you splurge and we’re did you save? 

Splurged on my dress ($6k). Saved by having a destination wedding, so the 20k is inclusive of a one week trip.  

Lastly, where are you located? 

Toronto, ON but we’re getting married in Jamaica. 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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elopenotanoption :  

How much did you spend on your wedding and what was/ is your budget? 

Budget – $23,000 AUD for 80 people.

 

How did you finance? 

My dad gave us $5,000.  My grandma gave us $1000 and paid for my dress ($900) and my Father-In-Law gave us $1000.  For the rest, we saved a set amount each week into a separate account.  From memory it was $300 a week between the two of us, plus Dh’s overtime.   I had a really detailed spreadsheet showing an itemised budget, how much was paid and how much was remaining which helped a tonne.  We came in really close due to issues that came up last minute, so definitely have a buffer!  

 

Where did you splurge and we’re did you save? 

Splurge – Dh’s suit cost as much as my dress – but he didn’t have a nice suit so we thought that would be worth it as he could wear it again.  Paid $1400 for flowers for bouquets, button holes, corsages and heaps of flowers to go around the venue as we didn’t do much else in the way of decoration, hair and makeup for me and all the girls, live music/MC as it was a cocktail wedding and we wanted to make sure we had someone clearly directing the evening.

Save – Venue was a country pub, no honeymoon, no fancy cars (until a friend suprised us with a classic car), no cake topper, photographer (only $500 and he was amazing), food (we did a large range of h’orderves + pizzas rather than fancier fair), my ring was cheap and not really what I wanted (I’m not sentimental about objects so will get the one  I wanted at some stage)

Lastly, where are you located? 

Victoria, Australia

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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weddingmaven :  My bias is that I’m suprised people allow their parents to pay a huge sum for a party for them when they are self-sufficient adults  then get on their high horse about other peoples decisions, but I suppose different strokes for different folks. 

 

Post # 40
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Honey Beekeeper

I think I’ve said we were fortunate. We were also very grateful and had no expectations for a big or expensive wedding. I don’t think that makes me snooty or disqualifies me from having an opinion on the financial implications of most younger people spending very large sums of money on a one day event. 

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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weddingmaven :  We both had expensive one day events to honour our relationships.  I paid for the majority of mine, you didn’t.  Pray tell me why that makes your decision better than mine? 

Post # 43
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

How much did you spend on your wedding and what was/ is your budget? 

Our budget is around $50k total and will probably spend close to that (wedding is August 2019). 

How did you finance? 

My fiances’ grandparents surprised us by pretty much demanding that they pay for the reception, which is the most expensive item. We graciously accepted the offer although we could afford it ourselves. My fiance is their first grandchild to get married, so we want to include them as much as possible. Venue + catering + open bar, etc. will total between $25k-$30k for around 125 guests. Fiances’ mother contributed a few thousand, and we are paying for the rest ourselves. 

 

Where did you splurge and we’re did you save? 

 I splurged on my dress for sure – $4k. By other’s standards, I probably splurged on cinematography and photography – around $6k each.

We are definitely saving on decor and flowers. My family owned a flower shop growing up, so naturally my mom HAS to be the one who does all my flowers. We will save here since we’re buying wholesale and DIYing it!

Lastly, where are you located? 

New Jersey, about 15 minutes from Manhattan.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

How much did you spend on your wedding and what was/ is your budget?  

 $25,000

How did you finance? 

 Savings

Where did you splurge and we’re did you save? 

 Wouldn’t say splurge but biggest expense was the all inclusive venue. 

Lastly, where are you located? 

 Australia

 

 

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills

I forgot to mention in my earlier post that we majorly saved on video too. I wanted video documentation but figured I could cut corners on hiring a wedding videographer and hired a freelance cinematographer who is a friend of one of my bridesmaid’s fiancé to shoot footage with his associate. He was awesome, extremely professional and cost me probably 60-75 percent less. If anyone is looking for a good way to save during the planning process this is a good alternative way to go. 

Said bridesmaid’s fiancé is editing our video for us as our wedding present but still, finding either a freelance filmmaker, or even a film student to shoot footage of the day and having it edited later is a great route to go. 

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