money, money, moooooneeeeey

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Post # 61
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

weddingmaven :  I think the issue here is that you’re weighing in with an opinion about a position you’ve never actually been in. You say you’d be perfectly happy going to city hall and not having a reception, but you never actually had to try it. You don’t know what it’s like to opt out of a wedding for financial reasons. You never actually had to consider whether it was worth the work to spend some time saving, working a second job, etc. so that one day you could show your kids pictures of your grandma dancing at your reception, so that you could have a picture of you in a white dress on your mantle, so that you could have all the people you love in one place for one night. It’s easy to dismiss the value of a wedding when it came easy to you. But to be so flippant about something that some people really value and work hard for, even if you don’t mean to, comes off as disrespectful. 

Post # 62
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718 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

elopenotanoption :  Our wedding is in June but I’ll answer as much as I can!! 

 

How much did you spend on your wedding and what was/ is your budget? 

Budget $8,500  

How did you finance? 

 His parents are gifting us $5,000 and mine are gifting $3,000. We plan to cover whatever is left!

Where did you splurge and we’re did you save? 

We are planning to get married in Hawaii so travel is the biggest splurge for us! The actual ceremony is relatively cheap.  

Lastly, where are you located? 

From the Pacific Northwest but getting married in Hawaii. 

Post # 63
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1384 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

 

How much did you spend on your wedding and what was/ is your budget? 

Budget: 20K.          Spent 32K

 

How did you finance?– My parents paid 20K and we paid 12K out of pocket

 

Where did you splurge and we’re did you save? 

Splurge was photography/videography: $400/hr and food/alcohol

Saved on….cake

 ***we had the best time of our lives! Our guests did too because they spoke of it 5 years out

Lastly, where are you located? S.F. bay area, CA

Post # 64
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1505 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

 

 

This is gonna be interesting. 

Rough initial budget: $10,000

Actual spend: $25,000 including our ceremony, reception, 3 week honeymoon, and both our wedding bands. 

 

How did you finance? We didn’t finance or credit, we paid for everything in cash. We got back about half in cash gifts, putting it in our house fund. 

Where did you splurge/save? Splurge on the ceremony, we stayed in a castle in Scotland for 3 days. My hair and makeup was $700 lol *shame*

Save: our reception, not intentionally! We had 50 people in a private room at a pub for a three-course meal and open bar, the bill at the end of the night was surprisingly low! 

Where are you located? Canada

Post # 65
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11941 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Micheruby :  As it happens, not true. We did not assume our parents would host and had already made the decision not to spend significant money on a wedding.

Post # 66
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3889 posts
Honey bee

weddingmaven :  I agree with you, but we have the fullness of time by which to judge this. Young people do not. And society has gone crazy with the amount spent on weddings these days. Im convinced that when you tack the word “wedding” on anything the price goes up astrnomically.

I know that it’s hard to fathom, but for most people the wedding becomes less and less important as the years pass. I only remember flashes from my wedding and reception. I told my daughter this, to explain why we weren’t spending tons of money on a wedding and she agreed, and fortunately she didn’t want some big show anyway. I have no idea what her total wedding cost, I’m sure it was much more than we wanted to spend. I do know that the flowers and decorations were about $30,000 because I handled that. The groom’s parents paid for the rehearsal dinner which was very nice of them and was about $25,000. It was a beautiful wedding on the smaller side, only 120 people. 

And guess what? She’s separated now. Money well spent? You decide.

Post # 67
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Hopetoun House, UK

How much did you spend on your wedding and what was/ is your budget? 
My wedding isnt until October 2020 but we are already planning, we are probably looking at around £65k for the day for 100 guests. £15k for our honeymoon.

How did you finance?

For our wedding day, we are very fortunate to have my parents fund for 50% of the final cost, while we already have the other 50% ready in cash. My fiances parents are paying for our honeymoon.

Where did you splurge and we’re did you save? 
Splurge: Photographer, Guests Accomodation, Bespoke dress (Both bride and bridal party) Flowers & Food & Beverages.
Save: Cake, Videographer, Online Save-the-dates, Affordable wedding Invites & DIY wedding day stationary as I enjoy doing calligraphy and I am quite creative.

Lastly, where are you located?

Edinburgh, U.K.

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