(Closed) Money on Registry

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@pyma: Set up one of the honeymoon funds/registries.  I know they exist, although I’ve never actually seen one. Other than that, there is no socially acceptable way to ask for cash.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would suggest a Honeymoon registry if you’re looking for assistance with that. Setting up the registry will allow your guests to pick and choose what aspect of your Honeymoon they want to gift to you (night at your hotel, dinner for 2, couples massage, etc…). 

Short of setting up the registry, there is no graceful way to just ask for money. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

agree with the other bees.i would use a honeymoon registry site. we’re really enjoying http://www.depositagift.com unfortunately wording to ‘ask’ for anything doesn’t usually bode well with guests. but registries are commonplace and the way that couples discreetly ‘ask’ for what they want. i don’t see any difference in asking for a certain set of dishes, or asking for a massage on a honeymoon. but i do think a registry really helps. i got a lot of ideas from this part of their site: http://www.depositagift.com/testimonials

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

i did a honeymoon registry and it was fun to create and several people used it!  i did it through http://www.honeymoonwishes.com    i have also heard that a good one is honeyfund.com

its super easy to get the money from it too. you can request that they transfer it directly to your bank account or they can send you a check.

i would recommend one of those.  as for wording on your website, this is what i put that my wedding planner gave me to use:

Family & Friends,
We look forward to your presence on our special day. Of course, ALL we ask is your presence. If you cannot attend, your thoughts and wishes are greatly appreciated. We do realize that many of you may wish to give us a wedding gift to commemorate our union together. We have decided to offer our guests a popular new wedding gift alternative – our Honeymoon Registry! This will allow you to help us create the honeymoon memories that will last us a lifetime!

Family & Friends,

We look forward to your presence on our special day. Of course, ALL we ask is your presence. If you cannot attend, your thoughts and wishes are greatly appreciated. We do realize that many of you may wish to give us a wedding gift to commemorate our union together. We have decided to offer our guests a popular new wedding gift alternative – our Honeymoon Registry! This will allow you to help us create the honeymoon memories that will last us a lifetime!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We chose not to register because we literally have NO room for anything, so registering would have felt a lot like lying to our guests.  We left it at no registry, if people asked we(I) told them we’d love a card to put in our wedding album.  We did put a bit more detail in our wedding website with this paragraph:

“Our greatest gift from you would be your presence at our big day, helping us celebrate! Due to our living circumstances for the forseeable future (and lack of space thereof), we have chosen not to register anywhere. If you decide you still would like to give a gift besides your presence, monetary gifts, gift cards, and cards would be appreciated!”

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

you cannot count on receiving any amount of money from anyone. probably most people already know you are tight on money. most young couples are! i think putting out a wishing well at your registry is totally fine, but i wouldn’t announce it in any way. they will get the hint. people will be feeling more generous at the wedding anyway rather than beforehand.

Post # 10
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591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You can set up a honeymoon registry like the other bees suggested. We set one up at http://www.travelersjoy.com. It was easy to set up and pretty cool! On our registry page on our website, we had the following saying (which I found here on the bee somewhere) along with links to our registries:

Your monetary blessings are appreciated
Your gifts are welcomed
Your love and prayers are requested

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We’re using http://www.honeyfund.com

We worded it something like ‘extra activities’ we’d like to do, so it didn’t make it sound like we couldn’t afford our honeymoon.

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