Post # 1
A friend of ours asked me if we would prefer money or one of our larger gifts from our registry for our wedding prsent. She already purchased a $40 item for our shower.
She told me to think about it. We could really use the money, but I think its rude to tell her so, even if she asked.
so do I tell her gift or money? Thoughts?
Post # 2
klhubb: I would say if she asked and you really would prefer the money – tell her that! I know that when I am buying a gift for someone I would much rather give them something I know they really want/need rather than get them something that wouldn’t be as useful. You could always tell her that you would prefer money because you are going to put it towards something larger (ie. washer and dryer, home renovation, home downpayment etc so that she at least knows where her money is going!)
Post # 3
Well, since she asked herself, I don’t think it would be rude to tell her that you’d prefer money! You could even say “Dear Friend, I don’t want to sound rude but since you were so awesome and asked, do you think you could still just give us the money? We really need it for ____” I don’t think your friend will mind. She’ll avoid a trip to the store too, maybe she hates shopping so she’ll actually like that better 🙂
Post # 4
I would be honest and tell her exactly what you’d like, maybe in a nicer way. “We would prefer money but whatever you decide to get is fine”. When people ask it’s because they would like to get you something you’ll get the best use out of. She wouldn’t ask if she didn’t want to know!
Post # 5
I know this is weeks later, but I thought I would update. I ended up telling her something along the lines of “thank you for asking which we prefer. If you were to gift us money, we’d use that toward excusions on our honeymoon.” She was totally cool with it and can’t wait to see pictures of us doing those things using the money they gave us!
Thanks everyone for your advice! 🙂