(Closed) Money poems printed on invites! Rant!!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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weddingmaven:  again, in my culture this is a norm

Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Wow, I have been invited to tons of weddings, and have never ever heard if this.  (I’m in the United States, and it sounds like it isnt a thing here… yet)  Anyone I know would be very annoyed by such a poem.  (Although, it isn’t like we Americans are pillars of etiquette or anything… I do know a bride who decided to try to crowd-fund her destination elopement via facebook.  That didn’t work out to well for her…)

Post # 48
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Honey bee

I always write a check, and send it before the wedding, so it wouldn’t ruin my day.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

OMG those poems are the worst! How embarrassing!

Post # 50
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Helper bee

It’s cultural.  In America no one does it.  In the UK and Australia it is common.  In Eastern cultures the norm is to write “no boxed gifts please.”

Really not a big deal, just clearly not something that some posters here are accustom to.

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee

Good heavens. I’d never heard of this and I admit to feeling a bit scandalized. 

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee

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eirlys:  haha!! Thank you!!

These are so tacky they’re almost fantastic!! I laughed when I read them…and that’s not a bad thing. But if I ever got one I’d definitely be like, “What in the actual fuck?” Lol

But we are very particular about wedding etiquette over here in the U.S. and even mentioning gifts as part of the invite has traditionally been a faux pas.

Post # 53
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Honey Beekeeper

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athenalex:  I don’t think it’s true that “not registering” to indicate that you want money is connected with any particular culture. Wedding registries were started in the US by the department stores. 

Post # 54
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Sugar bee

I’m Australian and I wouldn’t say it’s typical, though it is “common” haha. In my experience couples don’t put anything about gifts ON the invite. I’ve literally never seen this in real life. Some people may include a separate insert with something about gifts but it’s not universal. We didn’t include anything and lots of people whos weddings I’ve been to haven’t either

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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ktsteimel:  Holy mother of God WHAT

Post # 57
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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Itsnotme:  Woah that one is terrible! About 50% of the words in that whole invitation is telling people to give them money. Such a convoluted way to tell people about a wishing well. And they’re never anything original, always see the same 5 cringy poems.

Honestly though, we are having a money-instead-of-gifts thing at our wedding (which in Australia is really common. Gift registries are the weird thing actually.), I’m planning on just writing maybe a two sentence sentiment on an insert saying something along the lines of “We are excited to have you celebrate with us, and if you’re so excited to bring a gift, we’ll have a wishing well to help get us started on married life.”
Maybe still a little cringey, but definetly an improvement.

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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Itsnotme:  My best friend straight up asked for money on her invites (and not in a money poem style). I was SHOCKED. I thought it was so tacky. I could never. I feel awkward enough if my guests ask me what I would like. I think for most it is usually assumed that the couple would prefer money if they don’t have a registery.

Post # 59
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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ktsteimel:  OMG- that is even worse than the ask. Shudder. 

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