(Closed) Money Request on Invitations, Anyone??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you include a money request as gift on your wedding invitations?
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No.  It’s incredibly rude.  If you have no registry or a small registry, most people will get the hint. 

    Post # 4
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    9647 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    it’s very rude to mention gifts on invitations, especially money

    Post # 5
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    8453 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    No way, I didn’t even mention our registries on the invites.  Cash gifts can be very offensive to some guests.

     

    Post # 6
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    1828 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    you definitely shouldn’t be mentioning gifts at all on your invites. even if its asking for cash in lieu of physical gifts

    Post # 7
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    598 posts
    Busy bee

    This is very rude. If you want money instead of gifts, you need to pass that knowledge by word of mouth, and enlist your parents to mention it to people.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    people will get the idea without you saying anything, but spread the word via parents, Maid/Matron of Honor, etc that you would appreciate money

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Where’s the poll so I can vote no?

    @mitchiedoll:  any other options if we don’t do a registry?

    Your options include being grateful for any gifts you receive.  Most people, after noticing you haven’t registered, will take the hint easily.  If they were planning to get you a gift, they will likely give you cash or a cheque.

    Post # 11
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    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You should never mention gifts on a formal invitation. If you don’t create a registry, guests will get the idea and most likely give you money instead. You can use word of mouth to spread your wishes as well through family & friends.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Your options are to mention it to your parents and should anyone ask THEM, they can say ‘you know I don’t think they need anything but they ARE saving for a house’. But truly, if you don’t have a registry, people get it. 

    Post # 13
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    4893 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Tell your parents and your close friends to pass it around that you don’t have a registry. People should get the hint. 

    Post # 14
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    11272 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    NO, NO, NO

    if you simply don’t register anywhere, guests usually take the hint.

    i agree with Juliepants:  Your options include being grateful for any gifts you receive.

    Post # 16
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    1699 posts
    Bumble bee

    If you were in Manitoba you could put “presentation” on the lower right corner of the invitation, and in general people would know that this means “during the reception we will have all the guests line up and file past the bride and groom dropping money in a basket as they go: therefore no other gift is expected.” Unfortunately in most other regions people will just scratch their heads and wonder what “presentation” means. And even in Manitoba, there are social circles where guests would see that “presentation” annotation in the lower right and think “Oh.” in a deprecatory and judgemental tone of thought — and probably a few who don’t know the code.

    There are other areas where “no boxed gifts” is used the same way as code for “we want cash”. I prefer to decode “no boxed gifts” as “no thank-you, we respectfully decline the soup tureen you wanted to give us but are nonetheless grateful for the thought” but there is a good chance that many of your guests will decode it as intended.

    Whether or not they are then offended by the request, or think ill of your breeding as a result of the request, depends on the social circles in which you move. I leave that up to your judgement as you know them better than I do.

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