(Closed) Money woes =( (Rant)

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hmmm this is a tough one, i’m sorry you are going through it. If I were you I would really try and pay off the wedding myself without borrowing from them. You don’t need that hanging over your head, especially when they were alittle funny about it. Who needs fancy food when you can have noodels??? No more spening hours chained to the stove. Plus, you can make some really great cheap meals. You should set up a post and ask for ideas :). I can’t believe they changed their minds about paying for it, especially after you moved the wedding! eeeek. Are they the same ones that you are now borrowing the money off?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

can you make some extra cash? yardwork, casual work on craigslist, construction, walking dogs in the neighbourhood, babysitting – the list goes on. even if you made an extra 50 dollars a week, that’s 200 per month and would at least contribute. 

can either of you opt for overtime?

also – take a look at what you do have – maybe it’s a freezer full of food you can eat to cut back dramatically on grocery bills, a closet full of clothes that could be consigned etc. do you have anything you could sell on craigslist?

i hope it works out!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ll make you some dinners, I live in Oshawa too πŸ˜‰ 

Seriously tho, I would do everything I my power not to have to borrow money off them.. I have too much pride to ever be made to feel ashamed by anyone, I couldn’t handle thAt. I would have also mentioned to them that if th wedding was in October like you originally wanted, you would have had no issues, I wouldn’t let them think this is your fault, I would make it very clear that you’re in this situation because of Them.

Ps..where are you getting married?

Post # 6
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859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

 

I just want to hug you.  I am so sorry.

Personally the only people I would have asked money from would be the in-laws since they’re the one’s who said they’d contiribute more than they did.  If they were saying that you guys should have budgeted better than you guys should have said we were on track and you threw us off.

There are places that loan money however be very careful and keep yourselves on a tight budget so you can pay them back asap.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Why not scale the wedding back to an amount you and your Fiance can comfortably afford? I don’t understand going for broke for one day and even going as far as borrowing money from relatives. Especially when you do not have at least a small financial safety net in case something happens.

I also don’t understand faulting your family for changing their minds about their gift to you because they were mistaken about costs. You’re not in this situation because of them. You’re in this situation because you planned a wedding you couldn’t afford in the first place. 

It is one day. I don’t mean to chastise you, but there is such a thing as being wedding crazy and unreasonable with costs. If you can’t afford the costs of everyday living like car repairs, etc., you can’t afford a 10k-13k wedding.

 

Post # 9
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Well, being so close to your wedding and 5k short of what you need, as much as I hate to suggest it, it might be better to open a line of credit. For example, a card that has a sort of “no interest for the first 6 months”. I wouldn’t want my inlaws dangling their money over my head, nor reprimanding me for being in a financial crisis that was really their fault.

 

I am curious, however, why you changed your date? It’s not like it was the difference between October 2014 and October 2013, it was literally a difference of 3 months. 3 months that could have been used to save the money they flaked on. This is why I will always recommend budgeting for your wedding using what you already have in your hand, and anything else is a bonus. People’s financial situations and priorities changed, and unfortunately you’re the one left to foot the bill.

 

 You have my sympathies, and the very best of luck to you. Try cutting out as much as you can, even if you need to cut the florists and DIY, or go with chicken and pasta, instead of salmon and steak.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Sevyn:  I’ve been to a wedding there and its totally beautiful, youre going to love it. If your wedding wasn’t litterally the week before mine, I would offer to make your cake for free for you because it sounds like you need some savings, but I’ve got two pre-parties the weekend before, so I won’t have time πŸ™ 

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