Post # 1
Well, I got my invitations are back from the printer and it’s time to put it all together. I initially planned on purchasing a stamp with our first initials and our married last name initial in the middle. Then I found a stamp with just our last initial for a great deal and planned to just use it. Then my mom decides to spout off, this morning right before I’m ready to start working on things, ‘what if it’s inapporopriate to use your married monogram?’ Ugh, really? I really don’t want to start from square one! Oh, and if it’s any consolataion, the invitation is coming from the both of us. Wording is “Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and love, Molly Middle Last and Vincent Middle Last together with our parents…”
So bees, what’s appropriate, do I need to start from square one?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
I’ve heard that people don’t use the married last name until the reception b/c you aren’t married yet. So your mom would be correct, but I don’t think people really remember stuff liike that when they look at invitations. It’s up to you. How high of a priority is it to keep your mom happy? Sorry for the pain. Wedding planning etiquette can be so difficult.
Post # 4
I would never in a million years think that was inappropriate.
Post # 5
Maybe I should have clarified…I’m not listing my name with his last name. It will still be my full Maiden name on the invitation. It’s only the envelope seal with the monogram.
Post # 6
I’m doing the same thing with my invites. Our monogram is our “theme” for the wedding. No worries!
Post # 7
There was a time with the married monogram being used before the ceremony was a faux pas. That seems to have relaxed a bit.
My invites have our married monogram on them. The only people who might get snarky over it would find something to complain about, so I’m giving them a gift. 🙂
Post # 8
I think that for people who don’t routinely use monogrammed and/or engraved social stationery, where the only monogram they have is the one they put together for their wedding stationery, it is probably more common than not that they use the same monogram on both their pre-wedding correspondence (such as invitations) and their post-wedding correspondence (such as thank-you notes).
High sticklers who consider it improper for the as-yet-unmarried couple to name both bride and groom as co-hosts, will consider it improper for you to use your married monogram prematurely. But few of us are going to be upset or offended by it: generally I just assume that the bride is relatively inexperienced with formal correspondence, and didn’t know any better. I may suspect that the truth is that they don’t care, but from my perspective that would be a less-charitable assumption.
Post # 9
I have heard that you arent supposed to use a monogram until the reception, but I dont think this is inappropriate. I am doing an monogram on our aisle runner and thats used before the receptoion. I say that if that is what you want for your wedding, go for it!!