(Closed) Monogram on the Invitations

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant

I’ve heard that people don’t use the married last name until the reception b/c you aren’t married yet.  So your mom would be correct, but I don’t think people really remember stuff liike that when they look at invitations.  It’s up to you.  How high of a priority is it to keep your mom happy?  Sorry for the pain.  Wedding planning etiquette can be so difficult.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would never in a million years think that was inappropriate.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m doing the same thing with my invites.  Our monogram is our “theme” for the wedding.  No worries!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

There was a time with the married monogram being used before the ceremony was a faux pas.  That seems to have relaxed a bit. 

My invites have our married monogram on them.  The only people who might get snarky over it would find something to complain about, so I’m giving them a gift. 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I think that for people who don’t routinely use monogrammed and/or engraved social stationery, where the only monogram they have is the one they put together for their wedding stationery, it is probably more common than not that they use the same monogram on both their pre-wedding correspondence (such as invitations) and their post-wedding correspondence (such as thank-you notes).

High sticklers who consider it improper for the as-yet-unmarried couple to name both bride and groom as co-hosts, will consider it improper for you to use your married monogram prematurely. But few of us are going to be upset or offended by it: generally I just assume that the bride is relatively inexperienced with formal correspondence, and didn’t know any better. I may suspect that the truth is that they don’t care, but from my perspective that would be a less-charitable assumption.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have heard that you arent supposed to use a monogram until the reception, but I dont think this is inappropriate. I am doing an monogram on our aisle runner and thats used before the receptoion. I say that if that is what you want for your wedding, go for it!!

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