(Closed) Monogram on the Invitations

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4822 posts
Honey bee

I dont know what is considered right or wrong, but you dont have the same last name until after the wedding.

I avoided using my new last name on anything (invites etc) because it wasnt my name yet.

Post # 4
3342 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have read that it’s inappropriate to use your married name before you are married, which means it would not be right on the invitation.

Post # 5
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with PP. Technically, it’s not considered appropriate to use your married monogram before the wedding.

Post # 7
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

From what I’ve read, you don’t use your married monogram until after you are actually married. That’s not your last initial yet so it wouldn’t really make sense. Two of my best friends gave me this gorgeous monogram return address stamp for my birthday in March and I’m dying to use it, but will wait until after the wedding for thank yous. 

Post # 8
2467 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

people use the monogram on invitations ALL the time. i think it’s inappropriate on any other stationary, but on the actual invitation it’s totally fine/done all the time.

Post # 9
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Though it is said that one shouldn’t use the new monogram, if you don’t have a pearl-clutching, old fashioned crowd on your guest list, I think it’s fine to use yours.

My invites from Minted have our monogram on them. It gave me a little pause, but I love the design and am moving forward with it. Besides, I have to give my gossiping aunt SOMETHING to get worked up over. 😉

Post # 10
10627 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’ve heard the don’t use your married monogram until you’re married rule, but I didn’t think it applied to invitations.  To me, it meant thank you notes before the wedding and personal stationary.

The invitation is about the two of you getting married, so I say go for the monogram on the invitations if you like it!

Post # 11
424 posts
Helper bee

We used the married monogram for our invitations and I never thought twice about it.  It is our “theme” that we are carrying throughout the wedding (crystal letter monogram in my bouquet, lit up on the wall, on napkins, cake topper, etc.)  I say go for it!

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