Post # 1
Well, I got my invitations are back from the printer and it’s time to put it all together. I initially planned on purchasing a stamp with our first initials and our married last name initial in the middle. Then I found a stamp with just our last initial for a great deal and planned to just use it. Then my mom decides to spout off, this morning right before I’m ready to start working on things, ‘what if it’s inapporopriate to use your married monogram?’ Ugh, really? I really don’t want to start from square one! Oh, and if it’s any consolataion, the invitation is coming from the both of us. Wording is “Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and love, Molly Middle Last and Vincent Middle Last together with our parents…”
So bees, what’s appropriate, do I need to start from square one?
Post # 3
I dont know what is considered right or wrong, but you dont have the same last name until after the wedding.
I avoided using my new last name on anything (invites etc) because it wasnt my name yet.
Post # 4
I have read that it’s inappropriate to use your married name before you are married, which means it would not be right on the invitation.
Post # 5
I agree with PP. Technically, it’s not considered appropriate to use your married monogram before the wedding.
Post # 6
Maybe I should have clarified…I’m not listing my name with his last name. It will still be my full Maiden name on the invitation. It’s only the envelope seal with the monogram.
Post # 7
From what I’ve read, you don’t use your married monogram until after you are actually married. That’s not your last initial yet so it wouldn’t really make sense. Two of my best friends gave me this gorgeous monogram return address stamp for my birthday in March and I’m dying to use it, but will wait until after the wedding for thank yous.
Post # 8
people use the monogram on invitations ALL the time. i think it’s inappropriate on any other stationary, but on the actual invitation it’s totally fine/done all the time.
Post # 9
Though it is said that one shouldn’t use the new monogram, if you don’t have a pearl-clutching, old fashioned crowd on your guest list, I think it’s fine to use yours.
My invites from Minted have our monogram on them. It gave me a little pause, but I love the design and am moving forward with it. Besides, I have to give my gossiping aunt SOMETHING to get worked up over. 😉
Post # 10
I’ve heard the don’t use your married monogram until you’re married rule, but I didn’t think it applied to invitations. To me, it meant thank you notes before the wedding and personal stationary.
The invitation is about the two of you getting married, so I say go for the monogram on the invitations if you like it!
Post # 11
We used the married monogram for our invitations and I never thought twice about it. It is our “theme” that we are carrying throughout the wedding (crystal letter monogram in my bouquet, lit up on the wall, on napkins, cake topper, etc.) I say go for it!