Post # 1
Hi ladies! I was wondering if you could help me out with something regarding our wedding monogram. I posted on a much older thread and it’s not seeing any action 🙂 We are planning on using Besty White Love Logo #16 for our invitation. www.bestywhite.com also “sells” JPG files of the monogram from the invite so you can brand your wedding (programs, OOT packs, whatever).
The dilemma is this: on all invitations incorporating the monogram with the new last initial and the bride and groom’s first initial it always shows the bride’s initial on the left of the new last name initial and the groom’s on the right. For instance, my name begins with V, FI’s with M, and our last name initial is (or will be for me eventually) D. So ours would read vDm. I am just concerned that people will think of a certain STD when they see our initials. Should I just flop it around to read mDv? The other concern is consistency since the body of the invite would say “the marriage of V…to…M.” Does this even matter anymore? I am sure at one point in history their was a reason…all opinion’s welcome. Do you think of VD when you look at our initials?
Post # 3
I don’t really think it will be a problem for you. That thought never even entered my mind. And as a monogram, I really don’t even see a correlation with it, even after I finished reading your post.
Post # 4
I don’t and actually, to me, if you do it the other way with mDv to me it almost sounds like the DMV–Department of Motor Vehicles. Also, they say using the groom’s initial in a monogram before the wedding is no-no, technically. I’m not always big on etiquette but I think some people might be confused. I think that’s why a lot of couples just use their initials and then use the married monogram after, like for their thank you cards or something.
Post # 5
Thanks for the input. I have Mindy Weiss’ wedding planning book and so I’ve definitely heard that *technically* you shouldn’t use the monogram with the married initial prior to the actual wedding. But, I’ve seen lots of invitations that do this, including the ones we’d like to use from Betsy White. Perhaps it’s just an old tradition? I think I’d be okay breaking that rule…the monogram we are looking at includes the date of our wedding so I feel like it represents the union we will form on that specific day.
Based on your comments though, I think I’ll keep my initial on the left. FI was the one concerned with people getting the wrong idea. I personally think the last name initial gets most of the attention since it’s a larger font size, front and center.
Post # 6
I seriously thought “What is she talking about? VDM? Huh?”
You should stick with what is traditional, noone will make that connection at all. It will confuse people if you put his name first, since I’ve never seen a monogram done that way.
Post # 7
Nothing crossed my mind either, now if your initials were “STD” that would stink!
Post # 8
Haha…yes, thank goodness they are not STD 🙂 I wasn’t that concerned, just FI. I agree that people won’t look at the invite and think they are being invited to a fundraiser to stop VD! Thanks again for the input, I’ll share your comments with the FI.