(Closed) Monster in-laws to be

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

This is awful, you both tried to get yourselves out of the situation by moving out and getting a place of your own, and you did. But sometimes everyone will fall on hard times and need to move back in with parents. It isnt right they treat you like this. My thoughts are that you were the one who helped your fiance with drugs etc, and it wasnt his parents that helped. They should have been there to help with that and probably feel guilty that they’ve done nothing and are lashing out. Some people have a really weird way of looking at life and how things should be.

This isnt normal behaviour, and I appreciate why Josh is saying they are treating you like their own daughter (it isnt right though, Im not treated like that by my fiances parents), but it must be really really hard for him to deal with the situation. He is tied up with them at the moment, and perhaps until you are both in a situation where you can move out again and re-gain control of your life, he can’t tell them to stick it. 

Is there a way that you can be around Josh and with him without the involvement of his parents? Spend some time away from them and see how you feel – do you start to feel better, more appreciated? If so, you know they are the problem. Sometimes people need reassurement that is isnt them causing problems (trust me, it isnt you!) but the situation may improve if you get out their way for a bit.

Sounds like they have no self confidence and find any little niggle with someone else and fixate on it, it isnt healthy. Youve done enough for them, you shouldnt have to make them like you. Get away from them if you can. Elope with your fiance?


Good luck xx

Post # 4
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

ame1212:  If he isn’t willing to take a stand, can you live with this for the rest of your life? Yes my in-laws and I sometimes disagree but nothing at all to this level and my dh has made it clear if it comes down to it, it will be me over them. If he can’t give you that then you need to think carefully about this situation. personally I would rather move out and take 4 months to pay stuff off than stay in that situation and take 2.

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