- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
…. I would like to start off by saying I love my fiance very much he is an amazing man but it hasn’t been easy and I am unsure of how to handle our situation.
When we first met my fiance was in a bad place on drugs partying blowing money and not being faithful, but I am happy to say we got him off drugs with a lot of hard work and tears, he is now paying off all his debt and saving money and he is a wonderful caring sensitive man who is 100 % honest with me now and is mybest friend…. But his parents are so hard to handle.mental illness runs in his family …. But it’s getting hard to justify how they treat me, I am 23 and he is 25, his mom has called my parents trying to get “dirt” on me when my fiance ( then bf) was living with them, I brushed it off Joshua had to go to school for his trade and I had to work to pay his truck off 800 a month or more for the truck for about 9 months … I was working full time his mom told him I was probably going to cheat and to leave me after all the money I spend on his truck and credit cards paying everything and having zero money for myself making min wage he came to my work saying this saying how his mom dislikes me and yet I try so hard… We got over it but it stung . Then one day he asked if I could spend the night ( we use to live there together but I moved back home to get to work easier ) his mom and dad screamed in my face and broke down the fence gate …. When my fiance asked and I did not.. it was so unexpected…. I have cleaned their whole house cooked helped when ever they asked so this hurt my feelings… Next a few months down the road things were smooth and going okay other than being cranky towards me and so on…. They let us have sleep overs ( we were engaged at this point ) then one night I found my fiance had almost cheated … We were talking about it … No yelling nothing and we decided to make it work … Next morning we wake up to the police being called on me saying I’m a bad influence and they want to charge me for being in their home… Josh and I were shocked… We left and he moved out immediately. Months went by and we were financially struggling but our relationship was less stressful. We got our own place it was nice. I forgave them although no sorry was ever said…. We would go there have dinners, it was going smooth, we were stressed due to money Josh called his mom to discuss saying we are having a hard time and bickering… She suggested he dates this girl from her church behind my back… He then told me and I called her and told her I am hurt and that was not okay to tell my fiance she said that’s too bad and it was a private conversation and basically I should be quiet. We had to go to a wedding and of course they were going… His mom demanded I say sorry or I’d be ignored. I said sorry although I felt so much worse saying sorry after what she had suggested he do but I did it and we moved on things were smooth for a while again but as I mentioned before we were catching up on bills due to some bad life choices before he had met me.. so he said he was moving back home to save money… I had no choice but agreed we should because we are so close to having our truck paid off and lots more so we can get a house . Once moved in his parents are telling us we can’t buy xmas gifts for one another we can’t see a movie and more, plus the other night I got yelled at by his father because Josh had taken a day off to take me to get a few beauty marks removed and get stitches… His dad said he never goes with joshs mom so he shouldn’t go with me and it’s my fault and I’m 23 and know nothkng, and should be smartter and not let him drive me.
Basically how can I get it them off my back… Or how can I make them like me and is this normal behaviour or is this a serious problem with a mentally unstable family… I am so confused and they are beyond controlling, yet I’ve tried my hardest. Everyone else in his family likes me except his mom and his dad ( his dad is not as bad but still…. Not how it should be ) I feel underminded and basically treated like I am dirt, and I’ve never heard an I’m sorry… Only ” well we don’t know you well so that’s what happens ” yet I try. We have been together almost three years . And joshs excuse is ” they treat you like they would their own daughter ” …. I think its a cop out… He sticks up for me very very very Mildly.