Post # 1
Are any of you considering using the Montessori method in raising your children, either at home on your own or by using a Montessori school?
If so, is there a book or books you can recommend?
Post # 3
i’m interested to see the responses! we have talked about montessori as an option, but since our baby is only 5.5 months we haven’t done a bunch of research on it yet.
Post # 4
My husband’s nieces both go to a Montessori “day care” right now. Both of their parents and the grandparents have noticed a HUGE change in their attitude and learning since they have started at the Montessori.
So my husband’s family is obviously very fond of it.
I think the big difference is most “day cares” are glorified baby sitters. But when you go into centers like a Montessori or Waldorf ideology they actually “Teach” your children. There’s discipline, there’s learning that’s built into their day to day.
His nieces use to be ALL over the place in their moods and attitudes. She just had SO much energy that was not channeled anywhere. Whereas at the Montessori they taught and gave her outlets to use that energy.
I don’t know much about the history of Montessoris in terms of how they started. A coworker of mine mentioned it was started by a group of nuns. She didn’t seem to keen on the history of Montessori’s. I urge you to ask around, there are likely other options around as well that are a “learning” day care like Montessori. In case you’re not too keen on the ideology of Montessori.
In our city there are many options for centers that actually teach such as Montessori, Waldorf, etc. I am keeping those in mind while searching for a day care but for the first two years when there is not too much “educational” learning happening yet we might opt for a cheaper day care. Then transition her to the more expensive “learning” day cares when she’s 2. We’re still on the fence, ideally I want to start her a center that has a reputation of teaching right away.
Specifically on Montessoris, I know the two in my area actually do not have an infant program. So we wouldn’t be able to look into them until she is a toddler.
If you have specific questions PM me and I can ask my BIL!
P.S. I forget, are you in NYC? If you are I have a really good day care I can recommend. My niece went there and that place is insane good. Expensive but they really teach the kids from 2/3 on. I believe the wait list is almost 2 years!
Post # 5
I don’t have kids yet, but I do follow a couple Montessori blogs. I went to Montessori myself, so it’s always been an interest of mine. You might find these helpful:
Post # 6
We looked at a Montessori “daycare” for my son. I loved the center, the cost not so much. So we decided to do in home daycare instead for costs and that the lady has done daycare for 25 years now.
Post # 7
I nanny for a family that put their 3 yo into montessori preschool and it’s been a great fit. We love the teaching philosophies and the way they respect each and every kid. I found one montessori that does a daycare program starting at 6 weeks old too, if I was a working mom I would definitely consider that.
I’m interested to hear from other bees.
Post # 8
My son went to a Montessori school for a year. It was not a great fit. It just did not match with his learning style that he needed nor did it fit his need for stucture. I think that it was a great program, just not for all kids. My brother went to the same school and did really well in it and loved it. However, he did have a more difficult time adjusting to middle school when that time came.
Post # 9
Yeah, Montessori definitely isn’t one-size-fit-all, as your experience illustrates. I loved it and did really well, which I think has to do with my independent, self-motivated nature (the teachers told my parents I was a “textbook Montessori child”). It was totally wrong for my brother though who required more structure to get the most of his schooling, so my parents pulling him out when he was around 6 or 7 (I think) and switched him to a more traditional elementary school model. Definitely something to be assessed on an individual, kid-by-kid basis.
Post # 10
We have incorporated some Montessori principles into our home, and our daycare also uses some Montessori principles. I like the principles that deal with celebrating nature and magic, the priciples that teach cooperation/appreciation for others, the priciples that teach independence and self-reliance, and the principles that emphasize learning through play. However, my husband and I are too much of traditionalists to buy into all the Montessori practices. 🙂
If you would like to learn more, I would recommend this book:
Although I haven’t read it, this was recommended to me by our daycare provider as a way to learn more about the practices she incorporates into her curriculum.
Post # 11
Thanks for the great responses! For some reason, I wasn’t notified about any of them. Go figure.
I’m not planning on going back to work for a while, so day care isn’t something I’m looking for at the moment. But I was doing some very preliminary thinking about preschool, as well as some general principles that my husband and I can incorporate in our daily interactions with our daughter.
@regberadaisy: Thanks! I don’t live in NYC, but just outside of it across the river.
@hergreenapples: Thanks for the blog links. I’ll check them out!
@Mrs. Spring: Thanks for the book suggestion. What are some of the principles that you have incorporated at home?
Post # 12
Some of the things we do at home (and that her daycare does) are encouraging/teaching DD how to do things independently. The idea is that, it may be easier/less time consuming to do things for your children, but even babies and toddlers are capable and ready to do certain activities independently. Teaching them how to do a simple activity by themselves empowers them to be more independent and confident in taking on challenges/exploring/trying new things/etc… Montessori encourages guided independence and learning through play, both of which we practice at home.
We’ve also incorporated a lot of of the principles about nature. Montessori is big on exploring nature and discussing/celebrating seasons, cycles, etc… We try to spend time outside every day, and we take a lot of nature walks, discuss our observations of nature, explore new areas, and celebrate when Addie discovers something interesting like a cool rock or leaf.
Finally, we talk a lot about our understanding/appreciation of other people and our feelings. Babies and toddlers are naturally emotional and social, but they need guidance in understanding emotions and how to deal with them. Throughout the course of the day, we try to make observations about Addie’s and our own emotions (e.g. “Addie looks happy throwing that ball to Daddy,” “Mommy seems frustrated because she can’t open that jar”) and then we discuss appropriate actions to take to deal with our emotions (“Let’s keep playing!” or “Can Daddy help Mommy open the jar? She needs help”).
We do have more structure/restrictions at home than traditional Montessori environments, though, and Addie is allowed to play with plastics and materials usually eliminated from Montessori schools. We also incorporate some traditional methods of learning (practicing our ABC’s, for example and encouraging reading) that Montessori usually discourages at this age.